Integrity, respect, trust... You immediately respect some people while you do not respect others. Because those whom you immediately respect have integrity. Do people who say that they will do something but never do it irritate you? But do you say that you'll do things while you know that you won't do them? Do you do this only to escorts or people who are not important to you? Or do you often say things out of politeness, but never mean them?
Most people in many cultures commonly begin conversations with 'how are you - fine, thanks'. People say this even when they absolutely do not care about how someone is. And they do not even listen to the response! The words are just empty. People don't mean them. Gentlemen, be careful with doing this. Say worlds only when you mean them. Otherwise you'll immediately communicate that you don't have integrity. We all feel when people do not mean what they say.
you create an expectation in your listeners. If I tell you that I'll call at a certain time, I'm setting you up to expect my call. If I say that I'll call and I know that I won't call while I say it, I don't have integrity. I mean well, of course - I want to be polite because I am scared to tell you that I don't want to call.
But if I know that I won't call, I will surely be more polite and respectful if I do not say that I will call. If I tell you that I'll call and don't, I communicate that you cannot trust my word. I downgrade the weight of my word and place myself among artificial sheeple. You will see me as a woman who doesn't have integrity. This may seem harsh, but if it describes your familiar habit, I help you to see the consequences. I used the example of calling you. Of course, this principle applies to whatever the action be.
Say that you will do something only if you will really do it. Others will take your words on the face value, hence your words will have consequences. If you say that you will do x and don't do it, don't be surprised when the person who expects you to do it chases you after doing it! Because you had created an expectation in him or her. Never mind the culture which often dictates to be polite instead of honest. The culture is not always right. Represent yourself well. You will earn respect and trust when what you say and do is the same.
Do not get lost in details when making decisions. Keep sight of the higher stakes. The higher stakes in this context are that if you don't do what you say, people won't respect, trust, and take you as credible.
When one focuses on options, alternatives, possibilities, he finds completing commitments hard. He is often very creative, but does not follow through what he says that he will do. If someone prefers a step by step process when he does things, he will more likely complete commitments. Language such as “the next step, then, after that, process, how to get to the end goal” will highly likely indicate that he is committed. If you want to improve the ability to really do what you say, practise being procedural. An easy way is to put when you will call someone into the calendar. And use the calendar to guide you.
Delegate: If you are still bad at doing what you say, hire someone and give them the task. Obviously, if your commitment is to call or make love to your partner, delegating this may lead to undesirable consequences. Lol.
When you say that you'll do something, you have power! Others trust and respect you. Because when you say it, others don't know yet whether you will do it. But you get the things you want from life because you did what you said. Say only what you will do, do it, and achieve what you want every time. Act with integrity even to people whom you do not respect. Perhaps because you judge them by what they do and do not know well enough who they are. For example escorts, etc.
And equally confidently say that you won't do something if you don't want to do it. People will respect and admire your courage to say things straight. You also admire and appreciate honesty and directness from others. They are traits of strong characters. Do you want to be one?
If you do, I invite you to start this as a new project.