Have you ever noticed that you immediately respect some people while you do not respect others? Do people who say that they will do something but never do it irritate you? But do you say that you'll do something while you have no intention of doing it to escorts or people who are not important to you? Or do you often say things out of politeness, but never mean them?

Most people in many cultures commonly begin conversations with the familiar automatic 'how are you - fine, thanks'. People say this even when they could not care less about how someone is. The words are just empty words. People don't mean them. Gentlemen, be careful with these words. Say them only when you mean them from the heart. Otherwise you'll immediately sound automatic and artificial. We all feel when people do not mean what they say.

When we say that we'll do something,

we create an expectation in our listeners. If I tell you that I'll call at a certain time, I'm setting you up to expect my call. If I say that I'll call and have no intention of calling while I say it, I'm false or too cowardly to tell things straight. I mean well, of course - I want to be polite because I am scared  to tell you that I don't want to call.

But if I have no intention of calling, will I not be more polite and respectful if I do not say that I will call? If I tell you that I'll call and don't, I communicate that I'm not trustworthy. You will not trust my word in future.  I'm downgrading the weight of my word and placing myself among artificial sheeple. This may seem harsh, but if it describes your familiar habit, this article helps you to see the consequences.  I used the example of calling you. Of course, this principle applies to whatever the action be.

How to gain respect, especially from strangers with whom you want to intimately connect?

If you want to be credible and respected, only say that you will do something if you will really do it. Hold your breath and count to 10 before speaking impulse-driven sentences that others will take on the face value. Make this a rule and follow it. Never mind the culture in which you live. This will earn you a lot of respect and trust from everyone.

Details and the big picture

Successful people identify where to place the attention. People often get lost in the details when making decisions and lose sight of the larger stakes. In our context the larger stakes are that if you don't do what you say you'll do, you lose respect, trust, credibility.

Options and procedures

When people focus on options, alternatives, and possibilities, they struggle to complete commitments. These folks tend to be very creative, but often do not follow through what they say they will do. If someone prefers a step by step process when he does things, he is more likely to follow through commitments. Language such as “the next step, then, after that, process, how to get to the end goal” will highly likely indicate that the person is committed to doing what he said he would do. If you want to improve your ability to really do what you say, adopt a procedural mode. An easy way is to put when you will call someone in the calendar. And use the calendar to guide you.

Delegate: If you still suck at doing what you said you would do, hire someone and give them the task. Obviously, if your commitment was to call or make love to your partner, delegating this might lead to undesirable consequences. Lol.

The power of commitment contributes to respect

When you say that you'll do something, you have power! Others trust and respect you. Because when you say it, others don't yet know whether you will do it.  But you get the things you want from life because you did what you said. Say only what you'll do, do it, and achieve what you want every time. Or say that you won't do something if you don't want to do it. People will respect and admire your courage to say things straight. We all admire and appreciate honesty and directness from others. They are traits of a strong characters. Do you want to be one?

If you do, why not start today?