Being passive in intimacy when you pay for it is a bad idea. Why? And why do some men wonder why the women whom they pay don't deliver quality intimacy either?  I invite you to discover the answers.

Being passive in intimacy breeds passivity

Most men always want their intimate partners to enjoy intimacy with them. A woman is a woman whether one pays her for sex or not. Seeing a woman enjoy intimacy gives men satisfaction and a sense of achievement. Men like to be and feel useful to women. And especially so in the sphere of sex! On the other hand there will always be men who prefer to lie there and take what their paid intimate partners give.  Men with this attitude think that they pay the women to entertain them.  Or some men say "you're a woman, so seduce me". But how do they expect to be given the quality attitude that they crave if they're not prepared to give the same?

We are all receptive to nonverbal communication. If you say good words but the body shows the opposite, another person will always take the message of the body.  You would too if you were on the receiving end of something similar.  So how does your communication contribute to the quality of your intimacy? Especially if you are passive in intimacy? Consider men who think that their intimate partners should entertain them because the men pay.  What energy does that send?  How does that affect the response that they get? How would you feel and respond if another person gave you that attitude?

You would intuitively feel it.

If someone tells us nonsense, we know just like we know if someone tells us sense. Every time we communicate we release subtle energy.  So be careful about what energy you radiate, because you'll get it back.  Examples of this are: if you're having a conversation with another person, you know if the conversation is landing well. And you also know when you have an inflexible communicator!  How do you know?

Intuitively - from the responses in your partner's words and body.  So if you stay passive in intimacy, this energy will hang in the air. Your partner will get the message and most likely be put off and act that way or similarly.

Being passive in intimacy therefore works both ways

The principle is simple, yet there're many [generally unhappy] men who don't grasp it.  Why are they unhappy?  Because they come across this passive attitude from others.  But these men do not realize that they're its source - until someone tells them!  Taking is nice, giving is nicer.  If we take all the time, we end up with heaps of stuff, yet emptiness in the heart, because the stuff will lose value and we'll start searching for the next taking...  But we'll never run away from the emptiness in the heart.  The only way to break the circle and get fulfilled is by giving some of ourselves to others.

If you give, your intimate partner will give more

Because if you do something nice, you'll release more loving energy.  A virtuous circle will begin - others will start accepting and loving you too. Verbal and nonverbal [even intimate] communication will start flowing. Happiness will start flooding your body and heart.  And you'll never have a dull encounter again! You'll exude more attractive energy which will attract similar partners. So start giving - and you'll start receiving!  And if you're feeling shaky, take my hand...