If men need to improve their intimate life, it is clear feedback that reflects something they've been doing to this moment.  The quality of a man's intimate life won't improve unless he does something to improve it.  Placing the responsibility of improving it on others won't get any man anywhere either. So no excuse - one must work to reap rewards.  Here are 20 ways to do so.  Your doctor won't tell you them and they don't cost money. So try them - you will only gain!

1. Eat healthily, enough, properly

Āyurveda - the science of life - has been the first science to teach civilisations for more than 5,000 years that all disease and malaise of the world comes from impaired gastric fire. If you eat healthy, not processed, correctly combined food appropriate for your dosha in appropriate quantities at appropriate times max 3 times a day, twice in old age, you'll enjoy life of high quality. You can then easily travel, enjoy any activity, make and spread love. When the stomach is full, you feel happy. Quality food brings quality thoughts and clear mind. But...

2. Clean your heart and soul

of grudges, lies, suppressed feelings. Say what you mean, mean what you say. Be honest. Speak what you feel even if it is ugly or politically incorrect. Let go of worrying that you will offend. You won't in most cases. In fact people will appreciate, admire, trust, and respect you for honesty. And when you offend, the fact that you offended is a problem of the person who offended himself. He understood you differently and did not check his understanding because he suppressed his feelings, hence did not express himself. That's his deal. You cannot and should not want to control it. Look after what you can control and control it to the benefit of your clean heart, soul, conscience. A clean spirit [=heart+soul] = healthy libido which reflects in the quality of intimacy.

3. Low libido, feeling miserably or depressed?

See point 1. And then point 2. And then... where are you looking?  If you're looking down which is where your feelings are, raise the eyes to the sky. Things will be looking up. So you will lose many bad feelings, and may even laugh! Hence it’s the cheapest and healthiest antidepressant certainly worth a try. The long-term way not to get depressed is eating healthily, regularly exercising appropriately for your dosha,  and sleeping enough at regular times correct for your dosha.

4. If you are annoyed or upset by a bad experience,

ask what can I learn from it? You will certainly find something good. If you really learn it, you may not have to experience the same or similar bad event again. You will restart the learning instead.

5. Grounding = another way for men to improve intimate life

The base of the spine and the buttocks are particularly common places to hurt when we are not grounded. You are also not grounded if you have a thousand things going through the head at once. Stand or sit upright. Send the pain or thoughts through (the chair and) your feet into the  earth. If you can let go of it like this, it isn't serious. Take a deep breath, hold it for a second, exhale, hold it for a second. Your head will feel clear. Regular massage is also magical in the long term!

6. If you believe that you can do something

or likewise if you believe that you can't, you will be right either way. What you believe you will achieve! So choose carefully. If you believe that you are an adequate lover, you will be. If you put yourself down, you will be down. In other words if you are confident, you will do well.  If you are not confident, you will act without confidence. That is one cause of so many problems with erection.

7. Does your head often ache?

See point 1. It starts there. Then ask the aching head what it is telling you. The message is often very simple: hunger,  water, air, less panic, less focus, move around. Hence think how you can help yourself and notice what happens to the aching head. Regular head massage makes heads ache less often.

8. Use your imagination

for all the good things you will do this week, month, season, year. Get clear pictures, sounds, and feelings together to really focus you on success. Men do this exceptionally well in the context of sex.

9. Surround yourself by people

who inspire you, with whom you feel good, whom you respect, trust, admire. End all toxic relationships as soon as you can, because ending them will be good for health. Free yourself from people who are artificially polite instead of honest. Because toxic people are toxic to the body and toxins create disease. And I can help you do so if you don't know how.

10. Men who open their minds improve intimate life by far

Minds are like parachutes - they function only when they are open. And the fear of something is far worse than the thing itself. But be clear about what open mind means. Many people say that they have open minds. But when you suggest something very different from that which is in the spheres of their worlds, they will dismiss it, Are such minds open? This inevitably happens in intimate life too.  Think about it... Some good coaching opens minds like nothing else!

11. How loud is your inner critic?

You can spend so long beating yourself up after making a mistake and feeling terribly about it that you don't have the energy to step back, learn from it, move on. However bad the situation, there is always learning which you can take from it. Especially if you are a man of the pitta dosha, you know the inner critic intimately... Turn the critic into a wise advisor. Again, some good coaching is ideal for showing you how. And well, the advisor will advise you on ways to improve your intimate life too!

12. If an event distresses you,

clear the energy from the memory. It really works. Regularly clearing your energy will change your life. You can clear your energy anywhere at any time. If you don't know how to clear the energy, I'll gladly show you. If you get intimate with clear energy, the quality of your intimate life will inevitably improve.

13. Men who notice success improve their intimate life

So notice successes instead of dismissing or belittling them. Start noticing what works, congratulate yourself, celebrate it, and see how you can do more.  All that will attract more success. Do the same in your intimate life.

14. Successful Olympians

don't think about the goals, but about the process to achieving the goals. For some of the most successful ones the medal comes as almost a surprise. This may also have an impact on traditional setting goals! Even for men who don't like setting goals.  Those men will definitely be interested only in the process of getting to success. How does this apply to intimate life?

15. Have you missed the sunshine for a long time

and not had the usual fill of energy? You may well be right. But everyone can make the most of whatever sunshine there is. Don't damage your skin. A solar panel keeps going all year. You can think of yourself as a mobile solar panel.  You can imagine a golden ball of energy drifting to the top of your head and feel it filling you with lovely warmth. Good energy = good intimate life.

16. Men who smile automatically improve intimate life

A smile is irresistible! The natural reaction to a smile results in movement of positive energy that replaces the bad pockets holding souls captive. Plus men who live with a smile improve their intimate life by half just by smiling. They are a delight to be around. Woman find men with a smile attractive. No one wants to be intimate with miserable men!

17. When you are ill,

notice what you tell yourself. If you tell yourself how bad it is, it will stay bad. Likewise, if you imagine what it will be like when you are healthy and grateful for the small improvements you notice, you will certainly get what you imagine. The better and faster you can help your healing, the better your intimate life will be.

18. If you can't sleep,

get up, put the feet firmly on the ground, ground yourself, drink a glass of warm water, return to bed, and RELAX. Concentrate on relaxing every part of your body and mind. Just let it sink into the bed... Relaxation is as important for the quality of intimate life as for the quality of all facets of life.And here is more about sleep.

19. See what happens

if you suspend judgement of something. It is just an event, therefore you don't have to judge whether it is good or bad. It is simply something that is happening.

20. Give pleasure space, time, attention

Very many men know transactional sex as the only answer to intimacy in today's world. There is hence no wonder that they are ever more deprived of intimacy. Humanity has made sex into a commodity of heavy consumerism, a weapon, a means of getting benefits. Everything that sex should not be.Men translate pleasure only as sex. They race for orgasms in many positions in a short time. They don't give themselves time to connect with sexual partners. Many men see connecting as hassle instead of an inevitable part of pleasure where all intimacy begins. Paying for sex is a hassle free shortcut to intimacy. Well, no. Every man who has visited prostitutes knows well that prostitutes don't sell the intimacy which they promise. This is why the adult industry does not fulfill its role in society. And will not because it will become only more commercial.

Pleasure is far more than sex. Pleasure needs space, time, and attention in order to be pleasurable and satisfy. So give pleasure space, time, and attention. These 3 factors are the leverage to improving the quality of intimate life. Then you're welcome to share moments of pleasure even with me!

All men can improve their intimate life

Some men can do it alone, others with a little help of someone with more perspectives.  That's how I add value to the lives of older professional men. And that's how I can add value to yours. And that's how you will consequently add value to people in your life. So would you like me to help you?