Discretion: every man who sees companions, courtesans, or has a mistress wants it. Even men who go for genuine massages want discretion! And many women promise it. But how does discretion reflect itself in the small details that men and women play out in daily lives and communications? Are people really as discreet as they think they are? What innocent acts can easily betray discretion? You may well be surprised at what useful pearls you will pick up from this article.
Communication by email and on social media is very prone to inadvertent betrayal of discretion. Gentlemen, you are as responsible for keeping communication online discreet as is the companion, courtesan, mistress, or even masseuse. If you want to have a companion, mistress, courtesan, or massages in full privacy, you’re fully responsible for protecting yourselves, your family members who certainly don’t deserve to be hurt, and even the involved woman. Therefore give her an email address to which only you have access. Then your family members won’t find your correspondence. It’s easy and free of charge to create an email account. And before you give a companion or masseuse your work email address, think who has access to it. Does your PA or secretary? If yes, set up a free email account on proton mail and you’ll have no problem.
And when you have given your companion or masseuse a safe email address, turn off notifications on your computers, smart phones, or tablets which will show a snippet of a new message on the screen before you unlock the device. This is one of the most inadvertent occurrences that can easily betray discretion. If your phone gets into the hands of a family member who sees a snippet of a new message from your companion or even masseuse, you’ll be in trouble. And the same applies to WhatsApp and all other chat apps on which you communicate. Turn off all notifications from these apps which will show new messages on your computer, phone, or tablet screens before you unlock the devices.
Another creative solution is to redirect sensitive content to your junk mail. If you do this, then of course you must remember to check the junk mail! Simply treat the spam box as a second inbox. Voilà – problem solved. You’ll have everything under the roof of one account, and your secrets will be well hidden.
In today’s world of cloud technology many folks swear by the convenience of cloud backups. If you’re one of them, remember that this can also work against you. If you have all conversations on SMS, WhatsApp, and other apps set to be backed up on cloud, then do what you can to prevent family members’ from accessing them, or they may see your conversations too!
Another point closely connected to this is that cloud technology enables you to see conversations by SMS, on WhatsApp, or other apps on any or all of your devices. Few of you will carry all devices with you at all times. And the rest of you expose yourselves to danger, because you can’t control who may see your conversations when notifications about new messages arrive on the devices which you don’t have with you!
If you don’t think carefully, you can betray yourself to even more people on social media, because your communication will be visible to far more people than those who have access to your phone, tablet, or email account. One way to bypass this issue is to create a nondescriptive handle on all social media. A handle which won’t contain your name nor otherwise hint at your identity. And then, of course, all that I wrote in the previous paragraphs will also apply.
Another way, especially if you have enjoyed solid presence on social media under your name for years, is to manage discretion with the settings on each social medium. People who complain that they don’t have privacy online complain wrongly, because they have forgotten that they have full control of when and how often they post what and who will see it. Every social medium tells users that it’s up to them what they share with whom. It pays huge dividends to educate yourself about how each social medium works, what settings it offers, and how the settings can work to your benefit.
You can set that only you will see who your friends are on Facebook. Ditto for connections on LinkedIn. You can set exactly who will see which parts of your profile on LinkedIn. And you can make your tweets protected by a password. Then people who will want to read them will request the password. You don’t have to post on my timeline on Facebook so that all my friends will see your comment and name. After all, you don’t know who my friends are, thus can you afford to risk that some of them know you?
Plus your comment wouldn’t be discreet if all my friends, and possibly even the public, might read it! Send me a (private) message instead. Then only I will see the message. You can do the same on LinkedIn. Be even more careful about posting comments on X if you have an account in your name! Again, send a private message instead of publicly commenting on at my tweets. Only I will read the private message. Hence the reason why it is called private.
Men can be good communicators too! If you’re not, this area of discretion will certainly challenge you to learn to be! Start by telling me whether it’s safe to send SMS, WhatsApp messages, etc. If I know, I will respect your preferences. If I don’t know, unnecessary predicaments can happen. And if you don’t tell me these things, I won’t be able to read them from your mind. Step two is to store me in the contacts on your phone under a name which you’ll know what means, but your family members won’t. You don’t have to store me under my name. You could even store me under a man’s name. As long as you know that the name represents me, that’s what matters.
Tip No. 2: always delete your conversation with the companion, courtesan, mistress, or even masseuse after you finish it. You never know whether a family member hasn’t figured out the password of your device… And even going for medical massage can be mistaken for other things in a world where people hijack words and turn them into meaning what they don’t…
Imagine that you call me to massage you at a hotel. The world doesn’t know that I’m coming to massage you. The world will think that I’m coming to do something else. If you’re a regular guest at the hotel, be careful about giving me a false name! You never know whether an overactive concierge won’t question me. This will appear as indiscreet toward me, i.e. not your problem at first. But if I can’t get to you because of how the situation develops, you’ll have to come downstairs eventually…
It really doesn’t pay to hide. Honesty is always the best policy. Plus if you’re honest with me, I have no reason not to be honest with you. Honesty breeds honesty and mutual trust. Isn’t that what affairs of the heart should be based on? Or can you have an affair with a woman you don’t trust? Certainly food for thought. And the same applies to your masseuse. You have to trust her to relax during the massage.
Another setting – would you talk to me in the street? Would that be discreet or indiscreet? After all, you never know who can see you where… You could be seen by the most unexpected people in the most unexpected places. It happens to many citizens of this planet. It could happen to you… After all, if anyone asked you who I was, you could say that I was a colleague, acquaintance from work or social network that you belong to, or the neighbourhood, or even a complete stranger. Judge for yourself… and have a cover story ready.
How else could you be indiscreet? Or has a companion, courtesan, mistress, or even masseuse been indiscrete to you? I feel that this article is unfinished business – work in progress. I’m sure that I’ll add to it when life experience inspires me. And you can also help me! Share your thoughts. I’ll treat them with the utmost discretion!
Getting a companion for international travel needs consideration. It is marvellous for your pleasure and convenience, but.... You should definitely consider these things before you hire a companion for international travel to or with you: (more…)
Why do so many people use the word mature outdatedly when they relate it purely to age? Especially in the context of sorting companions, courtesans, models, escorts, and women in other roles by age? And why is its outdated usage conventionalized so deeply that nobody questions it when surfing the net for a companion or a woman in another role? Well, if you're now curious and want to be more mature about being mature, ...
The conventional thinking in the past was that being a companion, escort, or courtesan was a young girl's game, similarly to modelling. But in fact companions, escorts, and courtesans start being interesting at 40 and the best ones are the oldest ones! They are the best because being mature comes with age and is a measure of life experience, emotional intelligence, wisdom, insight, and a certain gravitas. Now even models and women who aren't courtesans but purport to be them occur at every age....
Hence if we connect being mature purely to age, considering that the life expectancy of people around the world is rising and living to one's mid 90s and even past 100 is now common, calling a woman mature at 40 years of her age is ridiculous. If we take the age of 95 as a frequently seen age when people die nowadays - and remember that women generally live longer than men, 40 is not even halfway through life! Of course, a woman at 40 could be mature or immature in all other senses of the word! Hence I started this paragraph with saying 'if we connect being mature purely to age'.
So if webmasters of directories and independent women market themselves as mature already at sometimes even 35 years of age, what will they call them(selves) at and after 55? The problem in the western society is wide misuse and interchange of words due to people not knowing what words mean. Someone starts using a word because it sounds good and people follow without questioning it. Sad indeed, especially in today's age of information and thinking.
'Maturity also means an advanced stage of mental, intellectual, and emotional development. Hence having reached maturity in the mind, thinking, life experience. I touched on this in the second paragraph too. Yes, a 40 year-old woman will have maturity as against a 20 years-young. But a 55 year-old woman will be more mature even in this sense than a 40 year-old. So where are we? Back to the point I raised in the first paragraph? Do you know people in their 80s who 'never grew up'? Does that make them mature? Or immature?
I orient this article at relating being mature purely to age because webmasters of escort directories do that too. They logically have no choice, because they can't know how mature in every other sense of the word the women who advertise on their directories are. Thus webmasters must classify advertisers somehow. And so the man looking for a companion on directories will automatically go by the woman's age. The hidden assumption is that maturity comes with age. A 20 years-young will be less mature than a 45 year-old.
The English language has the highest number of words of all languages. And I heard somewhere years ago that 4,000 words come into the English language every day! If we go with this postulate, why don't we brainstorm for a far more appropriate term for the current label 'mature' as a marker of age? The appropriate scale of labeling women's age groups could be:
18 - 30 = young
30 - 60 - middleaged
60+ = mature.
Is there anything wrong with the term 'middleaged'? Not at all. It occupies the middle third of life if we divide life into equal thirds of 30 - 60 - 90. Hence it accurately describes the window of life which it denotes. It's not offensive. And it's clear and concise. So why not adopt it? Many men say that they find the term 'mature' more attractive than 'middleaged' in connection with a woman. Fair point. But if you are one of them, read this paragraph again...
What do you think? Tell me.
The pros and cons of massage tables - do you know them? If you're a seasoned recipient of massage, you may prefer getting it on a massage table - or not. If you're a man who stumbled across my blog and immersed himself in its pearls of wisdom, I'll tell you the pros and cons of massage tables. And which option you'd get if you came for a massage to me.
that I see is not for you, but for the masseuse. If it is for you too, then indirectly. Only in the sense that if the masseuse is 100% comfortable while massaging you, she'll transfer her comfort and grounded energy to you through her touch. And that will strengthen the healing of the massage. But I said indirectly. And if you ever get to know me, you'll find out that I don't waste words. The pro of massage tables is very definitely for the therapist. Massage tables were invented to help the masseuse keep a straight back and be able to walk around you for easy access to every part of your body. Her straight back will not hurt, thus she will be more comfortable.... And be able to apply solid pressure in certain movements during the massage. But that's about it.
is not good either. This is because the mattress absorbs most of the pressure of massage movements. The pressures are to compress the deep tissues and stimulate an influx of blood and lymph into them. Thus the only option that remains and I find the best by far is to massage on a massage and physio mat on the floor. Can you deduce why? If not, never mind. You can always experience the pros of this with me.
Gentlemen, why is it better to go to an independent masseuse than a massage clinic or parlour if you want a real massage of quality?
And their clinical atmosphere doesn't exactly induce relaxation, which is the whole point of going for a massage! After all, think about it: would you rather have a massage somewhere private, quiet, cozy? Or somewhere where you can hear ringing phones and voices of people in a waiting room behind the thin walls of a treatment room? An independent masseuse offers an environment in which you can truly relax, because it's private, quiet, and far homier and cozier than any parlour or clinic will ever be. The clinical element is not there. And that will make a big difference to your relaxation.
Massage clinics and parlours operate opening hours which you have to suit. Independent masseuses often operate hours to suit you! That makes a big difference. And yes, weekends, and sometimes even holidays are possible too.
You'll always have to make the journey to a massage clinic or parlour. And another journey away from it after the massage. Contrastingly, an independent masseuse can come to your home or a location of your choice. This has advantages. One is in saving time, money, and energy on your journeys to and from the massage. Another is that you will be able to stay where you are and relax after the massage. You can just lie there and enjoy feeling like a newborn. You don't have to gather your strength to travel anywhere. After all, what's the point in having a massage that's supposed to relax you if you have sitting in traffic home at the back of your mind even before the massage begins?
Massage at a clinic or parlour will be immensely automatic because the masseuses at clinics massage bodies daily for months or years. But I very much doubt that an independent masseuse will have the same approach. The independent masseuse competes with the clinics and parlours. She will therefore most likely do her utmost to give you a massage like none other. She will want you back, and also probably won't be motivated entirely by money if she operates independently despite the huge competition from clinics and parlours where there can be several masseuses in one place. If the independent masseuse isn't motivated by money as much , the advantage to you is that she won't administer the massage in that terribly automatic and rushed manner. She will make it as enjoyable for you as possible.
A masseuse at a clinic or parlour will have only a few essential oil blends at hand. Firstly due to minimising costs and maximising profits. Secondly due to the fact that the oils have a shelf life. The more oils, the more shelf life there is to watch. An independent masseuse will have a large kit of oils from which she'll make a fresh blend according to the condition she is to treat - even if the condition is simply to relax and enjoy yourself. And independent masseuse will find watching the shelf life of oils easier than staff at clinics where there can be several masseuses.
If you like to combine a good therapeutic massage with sextras, a masseuse at a clinic or bona fide massage parlour [not brothel in disguise] will definitely not give them to you. That's because she'll be scared that you'll spread the word and the reputation of the clinic - if not her job - will suffer.
But I'm positive that many an independent masseuse will happily oblige, even if for extra money. After all, if you can't get sextras for free, better get them for more money than not at all if you want them so much. Since the independent masseuse will want you back, she'll do a lot more than the clinic masseuse to tailor your experience to your utmost satisfaction. But many charge extra for sextras because they're solo and don't get the salaries and the support of the institutional earning power that masseuses in clinics and parlours get. Thus independent masseuses naturally take every opportunity to get more money out of you. That's a fact of living in the world of today.
Beware of this phenomenon! Many men succumb to the tendency to treat independent masseuses as prostitutes as they think that exactly because independent masseuses do whatever they can to earn money, the masseuses will give them sexual services instead of massage or massage for less money. Please respect the status of the independent masseuse and do not haggle the price with her. A masseuse is a masseuse whether she works at an institution or for herself. The skill is the same - massage therapy. Show respect and life will reward you. If you want sex, go to a place where they sell it.
Why would I be writing about this if I hadn't been an independent masseuse for two decades? Would you like to put the points I listed here to the test? Would you like to experience how real independent massage should be done? Let's start a conversation.
Reviews used to be good - when people started posting them. And they still can be good - in some industries. But not in that of high end companionship. Hence why should men not waste time with reading reviews of elite companions? And definitely not post any of me?
Men who hire high class companions don't want to review them. This is because if they were to make the reviews authentic, they would have to sign them - with their names. Which high profile executive would do that? High profilers who hire high end companions and courtesans do whatever they can to keep it quiet from the public and media. Publishing a credible review online would fly in the face of this principle. The writer would have to publish the review with his name for the review to be credible. Who would do that?
In the world of high end companionship most men and women act under different names. This in itself makes the whole game inauthentic and not credible at all. If anyone can give themself any name and sign a review with it, then where's the credibility of the review if absolutely anyone, or even a bot could be behind it? High profile executives and entrepreneurs who lead companies have far more to lose if they do not maintain anonymity than any companion or woman in another role. Albeit many of these men welcome high risks, none will welcome the risk of losing a family and public face because of reviewing their dalliances with those women.
Moreover, how do you, the reader of the review, know that someone didn't write it for payment? There are companies that employ people to write reviews of products and services which they know nothing about. There are people who ask friends and relatives to write reviews on their businesses, like and follow them on social media, and record video reviews. Anything to make their businesses look better online. They know well that hardly anyone will know that the reviews are from their friends or relatives....
While posting a review on a product (already a commodity) would be acceptable if all factors in the previous paragraphs were authentic, it's impossible to commoditise experiences with a real high end companion because these experiences are formed by two unique individuals who are irreplaceable and impossible to copy. Every experience is personal to you. And since both of us are irreplaceable and impossible to copy, nobody else can create the experience that the two of us can. This is why your experience with a high end companion will never be a commodity. Nor will it ever be a service. Service is universal, far less (if at all) intimate, and far less personal than your experience with a high class companion.
Additionally to all these factors there is the factor of whether the writers of reviews are even human! As living gets more expensive, people get more creative at ways to save. So now there is software that generates reviews - bots such as GPT! If bots can write reviews on products, bots can write reviews on people. This technology will only get more sophisticated, thus you, the man who wants to find quality human connection online never know whether the reviews of women are not written by bots!
People often ask how I spread the word about the value I add to men if I don't allow revives. I encourage men to do their research, visit my official site, read what I write, observe how I present myself and operate, learn who I am from the articles on this page, and let their intuition guide them whether I'll be right for them.
And then - talk to me. Conversations bring people closer. And closeness is the most important factor of an experience with a high end companion. I'm limited in how much I can advertise my role as a companion due to its nature and the stigma that those who still don't understand its true nature append to it. So the only way is to leave it to men themselves. You, dear reader, should do exactly the same with every woman you're ever to pay again. It makes sense in a world of false promises, con artistry, and misleading advertising.
And if you could use help with fine-tuning your intuition, let's start a conversation.
One of the most frequent objections I hear is that men don't have enough money to see companions courtesans, mistresses, as often as they'd like - or can't afford pleasures at all. But this is not an insurmountable problem. Here is how to surmount it.
If you know how much your companion, courtesan, mistress, or paramour charges and want to see her at all or more often, you can plan for it. Planning = saving. You can save a fixed amount every week. It will add up at the end of the month. And that will motivate you more to continue saving, because you'll see results.
Or you can save a fixed amount every month. The result will be the same, though the method will be less structured. Saving a sum once a week may seem too structured or constraining for some men whom this article may inspire to try it. Putting aside a lump sum once a month may seem a little more liberal, permissive, lighter on the mind. Of course, good savers will be familiar with either strategy. They'll find either strategy easy, because that's exactly how they afford everything. Hence good savers always have enough money for what they want!
Or another way is to save a fixed amount from every pay. This is a good strategy especially for people who work for wages instead of salary. So the bottom line is that when there's a will there is always a way.
How often would you ideally like to see a companion, courtesan, mistresses, or have a massage? Basic math will help. If you'd ideally like it once a month, do the math and start saving accordingly. It's no rocket science. It just needs the right strategy of managing money plus a little discipline and motivation.
And not only worth it. Regular pleasures are essential in life. Pleasures keep us sane, happy, motivated. They keep life interesting, add sparkle to it, remind us what we're here for, what we work for. If you find a way to save that works and start saving, you'll always have enough money for regular pleasures and won't look cheap in the eyes of your companion, courtesan, mistress, or masseuse whom you now tell that you can't afford to see her.
After all, wouldn't it sound cheap if someone told you that they couldn't afford to see you? Wouldn't you think: 'So you can't afford to see me, but you can afford a new car every 3 years, smoking, drinking, monthly subscriptions, and holidays?' Wouldn't you think: 'Heeere we go again! Why do I seem to hear this excuse everywhere?' Or wouldn't you think: 'Well, if you afforded to see me once or several times, you can afford to see me again. Just do what you did when you afforded to see me the last time.' Or wouldn't you think: 'Well, if you can't afford pleasures, you're sad, and not being able to afford things is just as much of a skill as is being able to afford things?' How would you feel? Exactly the point!
is that if you find a way of saving that will allow you to see your favourite courtesan, companion, mistress, or paramour or have regular massages, you'll train yourself to handle money better in other aspects of life too. How rewarding will that be? What will you be able to afford then?
Some men are very self-sufficient, others are more motivated by others' help with saving money for courtesans and other pleasures in life. Are you one of them? Let's start a conversation.
It might sound far fetched on first hearing. But it's definitely true - and would make many a woman want to kill me. Having a companion or mistress is healthy for a man. Here's why.
In the world of animals the males of many species impregnate a female, but don't stay with her for life to raise the young and grow old. The males of some species leave the female immediately after impregnation and never come back. Males of other species openly mate with all the females in their herd. Men and males were put on this planet to preserve the species. In the world of modern humans this principle translates into several ways. 1. men who choose to stay with one woman all their lives seek variety in affairs with courtesans, paramours, or mistresses. 2. men leave the impregnated woman as soon as she announces pregnancy. 3. men go through several partnerships or marriages in life. Some men do it all: they have wives, girlfriends, lovers, and still even pay for sex.
And women who refuse to accept this fact delude themselves. I don't need the results of studies to tell me that staying with one sexual partner for life kills the magic of sex. It does, because good sex usually comprises unpredictability - an ingredient that inevitably evaporates over time when we have sex with one person all the time. To keep the magic in any relationship it's important to have variety and a happy mental environment.
Therefore if a man has a companion, mistress, paramour, or lover while staying with one stable life partner, he makes a balancing act. An inevitable compromise that adds to his mental health. And look at the fact that in some cultures a man can have several wives. This is also an expression of this balancing act. Women are wired differently and usually prefer the opposite - one sexual partner for life. Hence women don't need this balancing act. But men do.
Another reason why male promiscuity is healthy is that sex with different women will inevitably be different. This can inspire new practices that the man can take to his stable life partner and spice up his sex life. This will strengthen the quality and happiness of their relationship. If the man is not happy with something - usually money or sex - in his relationship, he will seek to redress the balance. The balancing act of having both a stable partner and a companion or mistress gives him a healthy mental state. And, of course, the countless physical health benefits of sex!
And having a companion is good for ageing. A younger companion makes a man feel as old as the woman he feels. Touch, caresses, social contact, and human connection do wonders for healthy ageing. So gentlemen, may this inspire you to have a companion if nothing else in this article did!
Are you a man who stumbled across this article and now wants a companion or mistress? Let's talk.
...and hasn't been for a long time. Where has high class gone? Why? How does a man looking for a courtesan tell who really is of high class? After all, everyone seems to claim to be...
The concept of high class in companionship has changed. Firstly, the time when society was clearly divided into classes in many cultures is gone. Now it's hard to tell who is from what class. So the times when "high class courtesans" earned 10,000 a night are long gone thanks to the societal shift and also oversaturated market and the cost of living. Now even high profilers don't pay that as the cost of their living rises too, and they can get pleasures for far less.
Secondly, a bad habit of the western culture is to pull out the superlatives too early to make things look bigger and better than they are and create commercial hype. This phenomenon applies to absolutely everything in the western society. Thus it also unfavourably reflects itself on the sphere of high class companionship.
Too many women, sadly most of them exactly not of high class, pull out the superlatives untimely and unjustly. Years ago a handful started describing themselves as upscale, exclusive, elite, high class, high end, premier, executive, and whatever else we see on search engines and in their advertising materials, and the rest followed.
Now these terms are everywhere. Just type a search phrase for a courtesan in your city into Google. You'll get a sea of these terms on the first page of the search results alone. Since less is more, more is also less. Every woman simply cannot be of high class, elite, upscale, or these terms would not mean anything. But since almost every woman now uses these terms to advertise herself, the terms already don't mean anything! And our society has run out of words for trumping these terms because they are already superlatives! And so all we can do is pile them high on and on.
High class needs public image. And public image sells to the right calibre of client. Hence the only ways in which a companion, escort, courtesan, mistress, paramour, or even prostitute can differentiate herself is by the quality of her presentation and the price point of her fees. But albeit the image of everything high class is expensive, exorbitant fees do not make the women who charges them high class.
Piling superlatives high doesn't make any woman elite, high class, premier, executive, nor any other of those statuses. It's all in who she is, what she knows, what and how she does, where she goes. And who she associates with. None of those women will ever tell that to anyone, because high class likes discretion and breach of discretion would result in a fall out of the high class at cosmic speed. So all that these terms are is commercial hype.
Of course all these women fight for the same type of client - the banker, lawyer, medical professional, entrepreneur, educational professional, politician, or corporate boss. But these women forget that this type of client doesn't pay attention to their elite, upscale, high end terms anymore, because he has seen so many used badly that he stopped paying attention long ago.
the best thing I - as a men's coach - can advise is that you let your intuition guide you. It's not the superlatives that make a woman be of high class. It's the tacit presentation of herself that will whisper to your intuition in what class a woman is. Her public image will tell you whether she suits the executive. The manner of expressing herself will reveal how upscale she is. Her thinking, values, actions, and character will speak volumes. And the words that aren't said will tell you the most. The whole package = her integrity is where the answer lies for you the searching man.
Good luck with the search. And if you think that it ends here or need guidance, let me know.
In conversations about why aromatherapy works I often hear that people don't trust aromatherapy to cure their conditions more than they trust pharmaceutical medicines. One conversation about the potency of aromatherapy with a longtime loyal recipient of my massages inspired me to share why aromatherapy works and always will work. So here it is:
The very fact that aromatherapy has been here far longer than commercially made medicines should serve as a strong testimony. If aromatherapy didn't work, wouldn't it go extinct through all civilizations to the modern world of science, knowledge, and information? If ancient civilizations in all parts of the world cured their rich and poor with aromatherapy and there was as much sickness in the world then as there is now, shouldn't this serve as a testimony that aromatherapy works?
Also, if essential oils are extracted directly from plants rather than chemicals engineered by man, shouldn't essential oils be better for health and our bodies and sufficiently potent to cure our ailments? If aromatherapy didn't work, would the Egyptians put its products into the graves of their pharaohs? And could the suppliers of aromatherapy compete charging small fortunes for it in today's world? After all, they have more than enough competition from pharmaceutical companies...
Let's look at why aromatherapy works from another perspective. When you buy a pharmaceutical medicine, the active ingredient, which is highly likely also a manmade chemical, is diluted by default. This is because you have to eat the tablet with the powder that shapes and holds the tablet together, plus colourings and preservatives so that the medicine can sustain long shelf life. Likewise you have to swallow a capsule with the material, colouring, and preservatives that encapsulate the active ingredient. The powder that holds the tablet and the material that forms the capsule will dissolve in your stomach with the active ingredient. Hence the active ingredient will be far less potent. This also explains why you have to take a whole course of some medicines before their effect kicks in.
Essential oils don't have this problem, because a) you don't digest them. The skin absorbs them into the blood stream. B) they come in glass bottles, thus don't contain powders, colourings, nor encapsulating materials to hold them. The glass bottles don't mix with the active ingredients of essential oils. The glass bottles simply contain the oils. And c) the essential oils are the active ingredients. Thus many cannot be used neat on the skin, because they could irritate it. That's exactly due to their potency! For this reason an aromatherapist will dilute the essential oils to various intensities in carrier oils. And the carrier oils contain minerals which are also wonderful for the skin. The minerals beautifully complement the concentrated essential oils.
The small fortunes that you'll pay for essential oils reflect the fact that you'll get the pure product [unless the oils are adulterated. But I'm not taking this option into account to clearly put my point across here]. And do you know why some essential oils cost so much? Because people can collect the nature's gifts from which they extract the essential oils only at limited times of day or night or in limited conditions. And exactly this and other factors make them expensive due to the costs of labour.
But in the long term the effectiveness and kindness of aromatherapy to the body and soul will beautifully even out its cost. And the fact that you can also use aromatherapy at home, at work, and even on animals is also a big plus for justifying its cost. It makes life pleasant and happier. Pleasure and happiness have high value. And will have even higher value in future. So is aromatherapy really that expensive in the long term? It is cheaper than pharmaceutical medicines.
Perhaps this article and others about aromatherapy on this site show that I'm a qualified aromatherapist. I beautifully combine aromatherapy with massages exclusively for older executive, corporate, and professional men. Would you like a massage that you'll get nowhere else? Let's talk about it.
Did you find a link to my site in a directory listing? Or better still, did you find my site on a search engine and not in a directory listing? Then I invite you to bear the following in mind:
because the construction of every directory site is - inevitably - limiting. Every directory allows an advertiser to put a different [and always limited] amount of information in a listing. 99% of advertisers don't keep a solid administrative record of where they advertise. That results in them signing up on directories when an invitation to do so lands in their inboxes and then forgetting about their listings. Thus the listing will be visible on the directory, but the information in the listing could be years out of date. Some directories state when the advertiser was last active or logged in. That is a good measure of seeing whether the advertiser looks after her listing on that site. The statistical information that tends to be out of date most often is the advertiser's age, physical stats, telephone number, email address, and location.
If I want to even create a directory listing, I must fill in at least some of its fields. These fields often portray me as what I'm not. Example: breast size or whether my Mount Pleasant is trimmed, shaven, or natural. How does that information matter if the person sells time, not sex? Yet if I don't fill these details in, I won't be able to even create the listing! The point of me advertising on directories is to increase my visibility on the worldwide web. Visibility is important, because I can have the best website, concept, mission, vision, and purpose in the world, but it's useless if no one finds it.
They're merely the hook. The core of the iceberg is always the advertiser's official website. The pictures are the vehicle that connects you to the advertiser's listing. But if you call the advertiser without reading the info on her official site, you could also be hooking on to a picture that's years out of date - or fake - owing to what I wrote in the first paragraph. It makes common sense to visit the advertiser's official site to see whether she's in business. And if she is, you'll see her hopefully current pictures and far more info there.
Directory sites spring up like mushrooms and are abandoned just as quickly. Webmasters often set them up in hope of getting rich quickly. And when they aren't getting rich quickly or are even making losses, they abandon them. But a man who visits the directory doesn't know whether the directory is looked after. And if the directory doesn't have a feature that shows when an advertiser was last logged in, you could be looking at a listing on a directory that no one has administered for years.
Another quirk is that even if an advertiser has a solid administrative record of where she advertises, she may still not know about all the sites on which her ad ends up. This is because webmasters often create mirror and sister sites on which they duplicate ads from the directory on which the advertiser had signed up. Webmasters do this for two reasons: 1. to make signing up on the original directory more attractive to advertisers 2. to expand their potential of making money from the sites. If I don't know that my ad has been duplicated on other sites, I can't include those sites on my record of where I advertise. Hence I can't look after those duplicate ads. So you could again be looking at an ad with years old info....
and reading the listing is that you will come across as a man who is making an informed decision about the person with whom he wants to share the finer moments in life. After all, you surf directory listings to hopefully buy human connection of which you clearly don't have enough. So if you show a complete stranger - in this case me - that you know what you're doing, you'll establish a solid connection. After all, if I called you and told you where I had seen your ad and why I liked it, wouldn't it feel much better than if I said that I had no clue where I had seen it? Exactly the point! The connection that you are buying starts from you, because you find me.
For life I'll have to accept the dilemma that if I advertise on these directories, men who see my listings will inevitably file me in their minds as another one of the women who sell their bodies. Not as a person who doesn't sell what others do and is far from a commodity. There's no directory that comes even close to suiting the needs of advertisers of my caliber. But if I don't advertise on directories, I can have the most interesting and informative website in the world, but nobody will see it. So it won't matter. C'est la vie..... and another reason why you should always visit an advertiser's official site. Not all advertisers are commodities, albeit exceptions are rare. Nonetheless it always pays for you to make informed choices, especially in today's world.
Does this article make perfect sense? Are you grateful that you found it? Or perhaps even intrigued by why I'm not a commodity? What else can I offer you that no one else will? Have a look.
Corporate life has taken and will continue to take it out of many a man. Aromatherapy - the application of blends of essential oils - is an easily available ecological, gentler than drugs, immensely effective, and (considering that you need very small amounts) inexpensive solution to keeping a man healthy and productive in the corporate world. If this solution appeals to you, try the tips from here that resonate with you for the next few months. You'll certainly feel the difference and may even become an inspiration to colleagues who eternally swallow pills!
The best aromatherapy for coughs is inhaling steam, because steam will soothe the throat and air passage and loosen excessive mucus. Hence expelling mucus by coughing will become easier. If inhaling steam is not possible, rubbing 2 drops of an essential oil diluted in 10ml of a carrier oil on your throat and chest 3 times a day will pleasantly help. When you are at work, do it in the bathroom where nobody sees. The essential oils of angelica, benzoin, eucalyptus, frankincense, lavender, marjoram, sandalwood, and thyme are great. These oils will also help in burners or diffusers at home, especially at night. Hot lemon drinks and herbal teas will soothe irritation in the throat. A massage of benzoin diluted in 10ml of carrier oil over the throat 3 times a day works great for loss of voice.
The essential oils of basil, eucalyptus, lavender, peppermint, and rosemary are great here, because they clear the brain and respiratory infections which can jump on us in [especially open plan] offices and on planes. Inhaling steam, cold compresses, or regular massage also work wonders.
can be dispersed with a light massage of the stomach with 2 drops of basil, camomile, lavender, or marjoram diluted in 10ml of a carrier oil. Choose any one of those oils at a time. Again, at work you can do it in the bathroom where nobody sees. Drinking camomile, fennel, or peppermint tea will speed up healing. These drinks will also make a far more pleasant form of hydration than coffee or all other sweet drinks. And you will add to your sexappeal!
Bergamot, clary sage, cypress, eucalyptus, lavender, litsea cubeba, neroli, and petitgrain are excellent deodorants. Drip 3 - 4 drops of any of these oils into a small amount of water or carrier oil in a saucer, small container, oil burner, or diffuser, and put it in a safe place on your desk or in the office. The scent will not set off the smoke alarm!
Drip 3-4 drops of any of the essential oils listed below into a small amount of water or carrier oil in a saucer, small container, or oil burner, and keep it on your desk or in a safe place in the office. Change the whole thing every week. Mosquitoes: cinnamon, clove, eucalyptus, geranium, lavender, lemon, rosemary, sage, thyme. Flies: cedarwood, eucalyptus, geranium, melaleuca, patchouli, peppermint, rosemary. Ticks: cedarwood, geranium, melaleuca, peppermint, thyme.
Camomile, lavender, marjoram, and rosemary are excellent oils for easing pain of muscles when used in baths or massage. Drip 2-3 drops of any of these essential oils into your bath and enjoy the experience. And I needn't stress the pleasant and immense benefits of regular massages for muscles lashed by the demands of the corporate world! Clary sage and jasmine have a relaxing effect on muscles. And black pepper, juniper, and rosemary will also increase muscle tone, thus performance.
3 drops of clove + 3 drops of orange + 3 drops of cinnamon oil in a small amount of water or carrier oil = a wonderful blend to put into an oil burner or diffuser and let your office be enveloped in a pleasant scent which will also kill the viruses of epidemics in every season. Eucalyptus and ti-tree are also fantastic protectors against epidemics. Clove and orange are skin irritants, so do not use them in baths. Baths with any of the oils of lavender, rosemary, ti-tree, or thyme will also highly and pleasantly protect you against infections.
Many a corporate man will inevitably argue that carrying blends in 10ml bottles into the corporate environment isn't practical. Nor is keeping many a thing on desks that should stay at home. But people do it, because they place high value on having those things take up space in their offices. Hence they are happy to sacrifice the impracticalities. Do you place high value on your health - hence productivity - in the ever more demanding corporate world? Then you'll surely agree that sacrificing the impracticality of carrying a 10ml bottle will be well worth the reward. Plus you'll always only carry one blend. I've named several oils for treating each issue in order to give you plenty of choice and inspiration.
If you've stumbled across this article and the article has piqued your interest in aromatherapy, I invite you to read more. Or let's talk about your issues and how we can treat them.
Most men want to spend their finer moments with intelligent, smart, sophisticated companions with perfect bodies, flawless manners, immaculate presentation, bulletproof discretion, and integrity. But many men wince at paying for the privilege. These men argue that paying for companionship makes them feel uncomfortable. Well, these men don't know how else they could think about paying for companionship. So I wrote this article to show them why paying for companionship can be a good act.
For 3 reasons:
The money that you pay for a companion's time is exactly the same as the money you pay a prostitute for sex or a salesperson for a house or milk. Or the money that you would pay a lover or girlfriend for dinners, holidays, gifts, etc. As men who pay for companionship clearly cannot or do not want lovers or girlfriends, they see value in paying for companionship even if they do not like paying. Money is energy. Exchanging money for something that you want = exchanging positive energy. The act of paying shows gratitude, appreciation, that you value what or who you pay for. You support the product, service, or person to stay in the world. Thus you give yourself more of what you want and make your world better.
When you pay for a product or service, you support the business in evolving and improving. When you pay a companion, you help her to pay for her basics of life so that she can contribute value to your life. It's the same as giving money to charity. The only difference is that if you pay a companion, you know exactly where your money goes, while if you "give" money to a charity, you'll never know where the money will go.
The money that you pay a companion, courtesan, or mistress acts as a clear boundary of your relationship. Boundaries are necessary. Fences make good neighbours. Every decent coach advises that people set clear boundaries in every professional and personal relationship. Every person needs a home - their little patch on earth. A home has walls, windows, and doors which denote clear boundaries. Why do we lock doors, windows, and pull curtains even in buildings with 24-hour security? Because we want to fortify our boundaries. We live in apartments because we want to be apart... Many men who wish to spend their finer moments with intelligent, smart, sophisticated women have wives or partners. And so do many of the women. So the money is a critical boundary that clearly denotes the relationship.
If a man dates a companion or mistress, the money that he pays her resolves his conflict between maintaining independence in life and submitting to her commands. Of course, points 1 and 2 apply here too. And they also beautifully complement each other.
So you see? The prospect of paying for companionship needn't be all that negative if you view it from a more resourceful perspective. This also applies to other currently intimidating or pressing aspects of your life. If you'd like to make them friendlier, you can do it with me.
Different folks, different strokes. Men who travel a lot or live abroad know this adage well. It applies to every aspect of life. And high end companionship is no exception. How do men from different cultures understand the concept of high end companionship? How do cultural differences reflect in men's understanding of high end companionship?
as a marketable activity of entertainment hails from the U.S. American men therefore generally understand it as what it is - the company of another person. Whether the company of another person will include intimacy is not the main interest of the American man who seeks company. He wants to spend time with a person with whom he can connect, talk, and do things. And if intimacy happens, it can only be a pleasant bonus. Of course, no man will say no to intimacy if the opportunity arises. But the American man will not protest against paying for companionship without intimacy as long as he feels that he will connect with the person.
main interest is generally the same. And since Canada is the USA's neighbour, it is hardly surprising that the cultural differences are small. Of course, Canada is between the U.S. and Britain, so more and more Canadian men secretly expect that intimacy will be involved. But it still isn't thei focus in seeking high end companionship. So if intimacy isn't involved, they generally don't protest.
are big. British men understand companionship as prostitution. Interestingly, even British born men who have lived abroad - even the USA or Canada - for decades still harbour this understanding. Perhaps they do so as if to reflect loyalties to their country of birth.:) British men place little value on the company of another person. They rather boldly ask first about what sexual services they will get for their money. British men see the value of another person's company, conversation, and presence for sharing experiences as a waste of money. Why pay a companion when they can do those things with friends? The free interchange of companionship with prostitution is also easy to see in British films. Many films feature prostitutes as important characters.
understand high end companionship the same way as British men, but will do their best to mask it.:) India is a good example of these countries. Understandably in this case also due to its cultural environment.
understand companionship the same way as do British men. They have Germany's influence on all things sexual to thank for that.:)
understand the concept of companionship similarly to British men. But due to their cultures restrictive of everything sexual there's no wonder that they seek the forbidden fruits of sweet sexual delights in western countries. Isn't that understandable?
understand companionship similarly to the Americans and Canadians, though with an even greater respect for and interest in their companions.
understand the concept of companionship the same way as the Brits, but add far more of a party spirit. They go into their moments with a companion with the attitude of celebration, not desperation. After all, even prostitution is legal in Australia... So if they don't make a big deal of prostitution, why should they make a big deal about companionship?
Latinos understand high end companionship more like the Brits, though apply a different kind of party spirit. That of worry-free, pot-smoking relaxation in the sun by the sea with music, drinks, or sensual dance... and intimacy if they can get it.:)
stem from a simple fact. Companionship is not the same thing as prostitution. A prostitute sells sex. A companion sells time and company and operates only in the high end of the market. Women who sell sex, operate in the lower rungs of the market, and advertise as companions to mask selling sex call themselves escorts. Yet even this is confusing, because escort means the same thing as companion. But prostitutes hijacked the term escort because to be an escort is legal, but to be a prostitute is not legal everywhere.
It is clear that the British influence is strong here. That's hardly surprising, as history has a lot to say for it. And we make history. So if these cultural differences in understanding companionship change over the years of my lifetime, I'll update this article. Just like I update all articles on my blog as something of value to add to them comes to mind. In the meantime if you can add to this account of the cultural differences in men's understanding of companionship or want company, let's talk.
Would you sleep without me? Sleeping with me would keep you awake! And keeping awake is what people in today's at least western society certainly do way too much of - to the cost of their health, productivity, and quality of life. Do you sleep enough? Or nowhere near enough?
This society lives in constant deprivation of sleep. And getting it to sleep more requires serious work. Paradoxically, even though people are sufficiently educated about the negative effects of sleeping little, many don't seem to notice... And when things start going wrong with them, most hardly look for connections in not sleeping enough. In fact they use stimulants instead!
Some people think that burnout is essential for achievement and success. And as man is excellent at adapting, those people get so used to burnout that they don't notice that they're exhausted. That makes being tired the new norm. Some people view sleep as boring. Hence sleeping little is an act of pride - they say 'we don't need to sleep!'. But there's huge economic cost to not sleeping enough. We think that we sacrifice sleeping for productivity, but we lose productivity to sickness, weakness, issues listed below, and worse mental capacity. Addiction to technology doesn't help either. People find it harder to disconnect and go to sleep,
Most people need 7 to 9 hours of sleep. Everyone has an optimal length of sleeping time. Transition to sleep also affects its quality. If you wake up at night, do not stress. Segmented sleep is absolutely normal. But if you don't slow the brain down before sleeping, it will activate immediately on waking up. If you wake up at night, ground yourself on the feet, drink some warm water, and do not go to electronic devices nor any other work. Enjoy the heavy calmness of the night and the fact that you have time to relax.
due to their workload, addiction to electronics, and desire to play as hard as they work. But the trend is - slowly - changing. Many CEOs say that they need 8 hours to be the most effective. Airlines and hotels compete who gives the best sleeping experience. The U.S. and NZ allow advertising sleeping aids which keep people awake while deprived of sleep so that they can do things they don't fully or at all know they do... How sick is that?! All use, and especially chronic use of sleeping aids damages health. Nature certainly didn't design the human body to eat chemicals.
his health, productivity, and quality of life by enough sleep - this simple resource freely available to all of us. Change your mindset about it, then change your habits.
- be happier, more focused, calmer, more productive, healthier, slimmer, more attractive, more grounded, emotionally stable, more fun to be around, and sexually able. Some good coaching can start you on this track. Would you like to talk about it?
One of the prevalent reasons why I send nine out of ten men who call or write to me elsewhere is that I quickly discover that our union would highly likely capsize because of their unrealistic expectations. The light bringer doesn't take people's money and turn it into bad memories! Here are the most common unrealistic expectations that men have. I share them so that if you have them you can work them out before hiring your next companion or another type of woman. [Yes, in today's world one must certainly be clean about the role for which he looks. Hence I stress the difference between a companion and another type of woman.].
If you're looking for a life partner or wife, don't surf sites where companions or even providers of adult services advertise! Albeit a life partnership with a companion or woman in other roles can develop in one in a million cases, it's not realistic to expect that it will happen to you. Plus you'll be wasting time, because you'll be looking in the wrong places.
If you go into a relationship with a companion with the mindset of looking for a life partner, your mindset and outlook will be incompatible. That will bring bad vibes between you and the woman. 99% of companions are in it for the money. You need to be realistic about that. Taking a second perspective will help. If you sold your time or body, would you welcome someone approaching you with the mindset of getting what you sold for nothing?
So you'd normally see her for a few hours and tell her how much you'd like to spend a night with her. But you can't afford the whole night? You'll do better if you keep that fact to yourself. 1. it cheapens your image. Claiming poverty sounds unbelievable from a man who has money for seeing companions. 2. You immediately make yourself sound unrealistic. Actions speak louder than words. And people are consistent in their actions. If you normally see her for a few hours, the likelihood that you'll see her for a night is low. You're not that extreme! So say what you mean. And say what is realistic if you don't want to sound artificial and erode the dynamic in your relationship with her.
Realize that if you pay peanuts, you'll get monkeys - you won't get nice for little or nothing. Cheap is cheap rather than deep for good reasons. Good isn't cheap. Also bear in mind that even if you can afford higher fees, there's equally no guarantee that women who charge them will be nice. The world doesn't work that way. Your best bet is to research, apply intuition, and evaluate whether stretching to x more money will be a welcome investment if your intuition tells you that the woman captures your interest.
usually is that if men have them in one area of life, they also have them in other areas of life. As I said above, people are consistent in their actions. But there is always a solution - if we care to find it. Getting some good coaching is one. And it will also help you in many other areas of life. I am the light bringer as I bring light to the lives of men whose unhappiness makes them pay for what should be free. Hence I'll be happy to help - without stigma and embarrassment for you if you decide to get it!
Although massage is generally enormously beneficial and certainly a great pleasure when done well, there are occasions when you should not have it. What are those occasions?
If you have allergies and the masseuse doesn't ask you whether you have any because she's lousy or something else in disguise of a masseuse, tell her what you have allergies to. This is important, as she should avoid essential oils that could trigger the allergies.
And if you stumbled across this article and can have massage but don't know what type of it would be good for you, this article will be handy. I'm qualified in all 8 types described in it.
And what are the 4 much less obvious benefits of massage?
Also, is it better for you to go to an independent masseuse or a massage clinic or parlour?
Would you like to ask something else? Let's talk about it.
If you regularly exercise - especially in busy gyms - in 3 sets of 12, 15, or 20 repetitions of exercises, you'll be familiar with your brain going off course while the body goes through the sequences. Somewhere you suddenly realize that you've lost count and are in a quandary about whether you're on the second or third set! How can you solidly concentrate to prevent that?
Reliably learn to count to 20 in 3 foreign languages that you don't speak. Learning to count to 20 in each language will cover the number of repetitions whether they be 12, 15, or 20. During your next exercise use language 1 for the first set, language 2 for the second set, and language 3 for the third set. You'll see how sharp your brain will stay on counting! Counting in a foreign language will force the brain to concentrate on counting. If you count in foreign languages that you speak, counting will be more automatic [autopilot] than counting in languages that you don't speak.
But regardless of how automatic the counting be, the brain will still be forced to concentrate on counting. Hence you won't go off course. You may even find fun in seeing how quickly you can think of the next count word. And also whether you can master counting the sequence more smoothly the next time you count in this language... After all, it's an exercise, right?:)
Learn the counts in 3 more foreign languages that you don't speak. You'll now have a stock of counts to 20 in 6 foreign languages. Always vary the order of the languages. If you have only 3 languages in stock, you'll be limited to only 3 variations. They will soon get automatic too. If you have 6, you have more choice to play with. Again, it's an exercise, right?:) And in this case choice is better than no choice because you can more variations of combinations.
You can also add counting on the fingers as your internal voice counts the words. You don't have to move the fingers. Just feel each finger of which the turn it is when its turn comes. Counting on the fingers will add grounding and support.
Or if you're more visual, you can add visual counting. See an image of each number in the mind while the internal voice counts it in the foreign languages. You can even see every number in a different colour if that makes it fun. So it can be an exercise of creativity as well as of the body!
Would you like to exercise your creativity in other aspects of life too? I'd gladly be your personal trainer!
Have you ever noticed that you immediately respect some people while you do not respect others in a lifetime? Do you know people who say that they will do something but never do it? And do you say that you'll do something while you have no intention of doing it? Or do you often say things out of politeness, but never mean them?
Most people in many cultures commonly begin conversations with the familiar automatic 'how are you - fine, thank you very much'. People say this even when they could not care less about how someone is. The words are just empty words. People don't mean them. Gentlemen, be careful with these words. Say them only when you mean them from the heart. Otherwise you'll immediately make yourselves sound automatic and artificial. We all feel when people say what they don't mean.
we create an expectation in our listeners. If I tell you that I'll call you at a certain time, I'm setting you up to expect my call. If I say that I'll call and have no intention of calling while I say it, I'm false or too cowardly to tell things straight. I mean well, of course - I want to be polite because I can't bring myself to tell you that I don't want to call you.
But if I have no intention of calling, would I not be more polite and respectful if I didn't say anything if I couldn't bring myself to say that I wouldn't call? If I tell you that I'll call and don't, I project the image that I'm not trustworthy. You cannot count on my word in future. I'm downgrading the weight of my word and placing myself in the crowd of sheeple who do the same thing. This may seem harsh, but if it describes your familiar habit, this article helps you to see its consequences. I used the example of calling you. Of course, this principle applies no matter what the action be.
If you want to be credible and respected, only say that you will do something if you will really do it. Hold your breath and count to 10 before speaking impulse-driven sentences that others will take on the face value. Make this a rule and follow it. Never mind the culture in which you live. This will earn you a lot of respect and trust from everyone.
Successful people identify where to place the attention. People often get lost in the details when making decisions and lose sight of the larger stakes. In our context the larger stakes are that if you don't do what you say you'll do, you lose respect, trust, credibility.
When people focus on options, alternatives, and possibilities, they struggle to complete commitments. These folks tend to be very creative, but often do not follow through what they say they will do. If someone prefers a step by step process when he does things, he is more likely to follow through commitments. Language such as “the next step, then, after that, process, how to get to the end goal” will highly likely indicate that the person is committed to doing what he said he would do. If you want to improve your ability to really do what you say, adopt a procedural mode. An easy way is to put when you will call someone in the calendar. And use the calendar to guide you.
Delegate: If you still suck at doing what you said you would do, hire someone and give them the task. Obviously, if your commitment was to call or make love to your partner, delegating this might lead to undesirable consequences. Lol.
When you say that you'll do something, you have power! Others trust and respect you. Because when you say it, others don't yet know whether you will do it. But you get the things you want from life because you did what you said. Say only what you'll do, do it, and achieve what you want every time. Or say that you won't do something if you don't want to do it. People will respect and admire your courage to say things straight. We all admire and appreciate honesty and directness from others. They are traits of a strong characters. Do you want to be one?
If you do, why not start today?
Be inspired by reading this if you live in the northern hemisphere. I say this, because while enjoying the height of summer in the southern one, people have no reason to even dream of issues that this article discusses! This article also won't interest you if you're so motivated to achieve your new year's resolutions that nothing will distract you on the way. But if you're one of those people whose motivation has plenty of room for strengthening, read on too.
Albeit 1 January has become the most classic landmark of new year's resolutions, I see tremendous irony but no surprise in why the promise of many people's new beginnings passes out of their lives as quickly as the month of January itself. The reasons for this are simple, logical, and commonsense:
Firstly, while 1 January celebrates new year's resolutions, the reality in many people's worlds is more of blues. Not enough light, less money after the holidays, and the holiday blues are all hardly motivating. Although we are socially conditioned to toast to new beginnings, many people feel unwilling to let go of the old comforts and charge ahead with new (dis)comforts. Their resolutions to start something new are more symbolic of what should be than of what is. After all, with plenty of [often fattening] festive food and drink still in the fridge, who would want to start a new strict diet in the middle of the dark end of the year? The light(ness) of the spring is far away and thinking about it now with the fridge still full of festive food and drink seems unthinkable....
As the daylight decreases and increases by roughly 15 minutes per week, the longer daylight becomes noticeable. If a ninetofiver walks out of work at 5:30(PM), he will see daylight. Daylight brings natural energy into our bodies. We feel more alive and the pull of the outdoors. We open the windows and take deep breaths. And we listen to the birdsong and hope for the arrival of spring. Isn't this a much more motivating environment for starting something new? Besides, February is a month of purification from the winter festivities and their consequences before the lighter part of the year. And the promise of spring is closer now than on 1 January.
I said at the beginning of this article that I was describing the situation of many people. Many doesn't equal all. I am of those people to whom weather, darkness, nor holiday blues don't block taking on new year's resolutions and getting what they want. But this is an advanced state of being after years of getting there. And the majority of the world population - especially living in the well economically developed countries - does not have it.
So I wrote this article for those folks who need a little help to embark on their dreams. The push of a well-meaning friend or family member's good word often doesn't have sufficiently strong effect due to the interpersonal dynamics and motivational mix not being absolutely right. So a different angle - and one that most people would never make a connection to - can do the trick! Not for nothing is February the month of purification! And another fact is that once upon a time new year started on 1 March...
And there's another solution too - not to make new year's resolutions! There are also folks who never make them, because they don't have to wait for the new year to resolve to do what they want to do. They just do it. Are you one of them? Or...
with spending the rest of your time on this planet to your fuller potential? I'm not the Light Bringer for nothing! The Light Bringer brings light to the dark corners of years and lives and is always willing to help you shed light on the dark corners of your life. Let's talk about it! And this article will also interest you. It's closely related to the point of this article.