The society will continue to go digital. People buy even human connection digitally nowadays. And will continue to do so even more. But isn't it ironic? That people want to connect with other human beings, yet don't even want to speak to them before they buy them? Here's why I'll always want to do things soul to soul. Why I don't communicate with strangers by text messages.
It is not for nothing that people have bought human connection for centuries. And I mean human connection, not sex in disguise of human connection. Buying sex is another matter even though human connection can indeed include sex. After all, sex is the physicalization of abstract intangible human connection. But I mean human connection - the company of and connecting with another human being.
Think about it - if we want to connect with another human being, we have to talk to them. I described the essence of this argument in this article. We have to talk to the human being to see whether we will connect. Whether we will spark that spark which will draw us to meeting. And whether there is potential for us to have a good time. But how can we know whether we will connect if we don't talk?
The problem with writing is that it is widely open to different interpretation. One statement can mean different things to different people as we all think differently and make different meaning of 'the same' statement. Plus we don't hear the voice nor feel the energy of our correspondent. The voice, pauses, and energy are irreplaceable because they tell a lot about a person. they say a lot to our intuition. When we talk to someone, we sense the meaning of what they tell us. We sense whether the person is drunk, drugged, sincere, hesitant, or saying something out of politeness or obligation with what s/he doesn't earnestly agree. These messages are critical when you're getting to know a stranger - especially a stranger whom you want to give time, money, energy, and trust to celebrate the finer moments in life with. And with whom many a man wants to be intimate!
This applies more from my point of view than from yours. Because when you respond to my ad by a text message, you're you. But when I get the text message, I don't know that you're you. I cannot know because anyone can send a text message. Without hearing your voice I have no way of knowing that you're you. Some men lend their phones to family members. So the text message in response to my ad could come from a child. Or a vengeful wife or partner. The only way for me to know is to talk to the writer.
And if I do things ethically and morally correctly, I feel responsibility to check whether you're you and not your child who borrowed your phone! Or your vengeful wife or partner. After all, if I think highly of discretion, should I not protect yours as much as I can? It costs nothing to do so and makes the world better for you, your family and me.
Another thing in today's world full of creative people is that a lot of creativity goes into scams. People want easy money for no work, and therefore create scams. One way to fight them is to play a clean honest game, because scammers operate on dishonesty. So to ensure that I'm dealing with genuine men I prefer to talk to them. And it works the other way around. After all, anyone can post an ad and forget about it over time as I described in this article. So how do you know whether the advertiser hasn't changed phone number? Call her instead of sending a text message. There will never be a replacement for hearing a voice, soul to soul, person to person contact. Especially and doubly so if your goal is to establish a romantic relationship with the stranger.
Have you been scammed? Or encountered a fake? That's because you made some strategic mistake. Perhaps one of these three. Or the one of communicating with strangers by text message instead of hearing their voices. As a coach who coaches men not to make basic mistakes I can help you find out what you do wrongly and can do better. Would you like to talk?