Immediately before you wash your face early in the morning fill your mouth with cool water and hold the water in the mouth while you splash cool water on the open eyes. Spit the water after washing the face. This is cooling from inside out and will make the eyes fresh, happy, and cheerful. If you don't want to splash water over the open eyes, you can use eyecups. Another effective way to keep the eyes strong are the sun salutation exercises. 12 sets of them are great for the eyes and the whole body. These exercises are best to do early in the morning.

Ayurvedic eyecare for the professional man of the pitta constitution

I explained the vata, pitta, kapha doshas in the first half of the article about Ayurveda and sex. Pitta - the energy which produces all bodily heat and governs all bodily functions related to heat - has a subtype that lives in the eyes. The 2 prevalent elements of pitta are fire and water. Fire = light, and is therefore related to vision and sight, intelligence, understanding, and many other things. Thus pitta people often congregate in the academia and higher professions. Those fields require using the eyes a lot. Pitta people read, write, study, and work on computers a lot. Many pitta people also wear spectacles from a young age.And pitta people usually logically have more problems with the eyes than vata ad kapha people.

One excellent care for the eyes is washing them with triphala powder. Buy those eyecups after all as you will need them for this. Pour boiled water from a kettle into a cup. Add a teaspoon of triphala powder, cover the top of the cup with a saucer, and leave it to cool to just warm. Strain the powder twice through doubly folded cheesecloth or 2 paper coffee filters so that particles of the powder do not stay in the water. Pour the tea into the eyecups and wash the eyes before you wash the face in the morning.

Another way is to buy pure castor oil without preservatives and put 1 drop of the oil into each eye at bedtime. Also rub 1 teaspoon of the oil into the soles of your feet. Your eyes will feel happy and fresh in the morning. If you want to soothe burning eyes, ideally make ghee at home. You will thus not have chemicals in it. Put 1 drop of lukewarm liquid ghee into each eye at bedtime. The ghee will lubricate the eyelids and lashes + soothe and strengthen the eyes. Or you can put 3 drops of pure rosewater into each eye. Rosewater is cooling.

For eyestrain put cool goat's milk on clean cotton wool pads and the pads over the closed eyes for 5 minutes. If goat's milk is not at hand, use cow's milk. But goat's milk is better.

Additional suggestions

Read sitting up. Keep the vertebral column straight while reading. Do not read lying down. Watch TV with a background light in the room. Do not watch TV with only the TV [or other] screen in a dark room. Use computer screens that don't glare. Or use filters that protect screens from glare. Gazing into sunrise [without spectacles] continuously for 10 minutes improves eyesight. And gazing into a flame of real fire or candle [again without spectacles] continuously for 5 minutes also improves eyesight. Massage of both eyes at once in circles with the index fingers from the inner corners under the eyes to the inner corners above the eyes stimulates the tear glands. This is good for people who have dry eyes.

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Erectile dysfunction

How Ayurveda explains erectile dysfunction has its own article since so many men unfortunately have it. Hence I won't repeat myself here as I value your time. A click on the link to the article will take less time than reading more paragraphs here.

Impotence

Impotence, a man's inability to have or maintain erection, can have several causes. The causes can be emotional, stress, and physical. For example, when a man has high cholesterol, fat and plaque can deposit themselves on the vessels that lead to the penis. The deposits will block the flow of blood to the penis and result in a "penis attack" in which the blood supply is insufficient to erect the penis or keep it erect. Exactly the same principle as with heart attack.

One remedy is to massage the pubic area (lower part of the abdomen) and the root of the penis with a few drops of mahanarayana oil. This will improve circulation and may be enough to cure the problem. Or one can apply either bala oil or ashwagandha oil directly to the penis. Massaging above the prostate gland [midway between the scrotum and anus] with either mahanarayana oil or bala oil or ashwagandha oil can also benefit. If you do not have the oils, you can use plain ghee. Massage with light pressure firstly in circles and then in strokes from the anus to the base of the penis. This will improve circulation. Another remedy is to drink a cup of warm milk with a pinch of saffron every night. This increases the sperm count. And finally, beneficial yoga postures are the rooster, elevated lotus, vajrasana, chakra asana, and the bow pose.

Low libido

Libido is the desire for pleasure and satisfaction. According to Ayurveda this desire comes from the male and female reproductive tissues. When there is weakness in the reproductive tissues, libido is low. Many people have low libido at middle or even earlier age. Emotional factors (which influence people at every age) and high stress (prevalent at young and middle age) are additional primary causes of low libido. It can be effectively treated with Ayurvedic programs and remedies that reduce stress and strengthen the reproductive system. Emotional factors can effectively be treated with coaching. But as always in Ayurveda, the question what is the total context of the situation arises. On one hand low libido can be a problem. On the other hand it can be a healthy response of the body preventing excessive loss of the health-giving vital fluid. From this perspective the body responds intelligently.

Intentional celibacy is different from low libido. There is immense sexual power/energy in celibacy, but a person consciously controls that energy and transforms it into supreme bliss or intelligence. In low libido the energy simply lacks. So here are several ways to increase it.

Gently press the glans penis (the head or top of the penis) with the top of the index finger. Press on the groove about one inch behind the tip of the penis. There is a marma point at the centre of the groove. Gently press for a minute or two, then release. This technique also helps to remediate premature ejaculation. You can also gently massage the glans penis with either bala oil, shatavari ghee, castor oil, or brahmi ghee. Taking the ashwagandha herb is effective internally. Add 1 teaspoon of ashwagandha powder and half a teaspoon of vidari to a cup of warm milk and drink it at night. It is better to leave the herbs in the milk for a few minutes than to mix them with the milk and drink immediately.

Food remedies for low libido

Soak 10 raw (not roasted) almonds in water overnight. In the morning peel the skins and eat with breakfast. Or soack 10 raw almonds in water overnight. In the morning peel the skins and put them into a blender with 1 cup of warm milk, 1 teaspoon of plain ghee, 1 teaspoon of natural sugar, a pinch of nutmeg, and a pinch of saffron. Thoroughly blend and enjoy this yummy drink. Or soak 10 fresh dates in a quart jar of plain ghee and add 1 teaspoon of finely chopped fresh ginger, an eighth of a teaspoon of cardamom powder, and a pinch of saffron. Cover the jar and keep it in a warm place for at least 2 weeks. Then eat 1 date a day in the early morning. These dates are one more wonderfully tasting gift of Ayurveda for low libido and sexual problems.

Another delicious remedy is to remove the skins and cores of 5 raw apples, blend or mash them into a pulp, thoroughly mix, add homey to taste, an eighth of a teaspoon of cardamom powder, a pinch of nutmeg, a pinch of saffron, and 10 drops of rosewater. Enjoy half a cup of this delicious dessert at least an hour after meals. Do not eat yogurt, milk, and fish at least 4 hours before and after eating this dessert.

Adding more garlic and onions to the diet also helps. However, these foods can be dulling to the mind which is why they're not good for meditation. So if that is your concern, add only very little of them if you don't eat them at all. And don't add more if you eat them. If meditation is not your concern, you can also mix 1 cup of milk, quarter of a cup of warm water, and 1 clove of chopped garlic. Gently boil until you have only 1 cup of liquid, and drink at bedtime. Or take 1 tablespoon of onion juice mixed with 1 teaspoon of fresh ginger twice a day.

Premature ejaculation

...is caused primarily by aggravation of vata - the biological air = that which moves everything in the body. I explained vata in the article on Ayurveda and why your partner doesn't want sex when you do. The quickness and heightened sensitivity to touch of vata predispose for faster ejaculation. A person of vata constitution cannot sustain sex for long in general. When vata is unduly increased in a person with a vata constitution, premature ejaculation is common and not surprising. Nervousness, fear or anxiety may also be involved. But this is also largely due to aggravated vata. Thus the main avenue of treatment is to balance vata.

Another possible cause is cholesterol and the related high triglycerides. Cholesterol deposits itself in the blood vessels of the penis and the whole reproductive system. The blood vessels become thick and narrow. The supply of blood to the penis and prostate is then insufficient. That causes lack of sphincter control and leads to ejaculating prematurely. But even this condition can be cured. with simple natural remedies and discipline over time.

Remedies

One remedy is to add 5-10 drops of mustard oil to 1 ounce of sesame oil and gently massage the penis. This pleasant treatment will dilate the blood vessels and thus improve the circulation of blood to the penis. IMPORTANT: do this massage at least 1 hour before intercourse and thoroughly wash the penis before intercourse. Otherwise the heating oils could burn your partner's delicate skin. You can also use castor oil which improves the tone of the sphincter muscles. Brahmi ghee, shatavari ghee, or ashwagandha ghee are good alternatives for massaging the pubic bone and glans penis before making love.

Another remedy is to practise stimulating the penis up to ejaculation, but not ejaculating. Then sit up straight (in a lotus posture if you can), pull (or suck) the anus inward, and release in a series of 10 tense-release movements. This will train the penis to be ready but not to ejaculate. You must practise with great care to succeed at this. Do this exercise 1 to 2 hours before making love. The third way to control ejaculation is contracting the muscles of the buttocks. The fourth way is to gently press the marma point at the centre of the underside on the glans penis, suck the anus inward at the same time, hold for 5 seconds, and release. Repeat 10 times. This improves the blood supply to the penis and helps to maintain erection. Do this about 1 hour before sex.

What to eat?

As premature ejaculation is a vata disorder, men with this problem should eat cooked warm oily liquid foods and few raw, cold, rough foods. Examples of raw cold rough foods are salads of raw vegetables, nuts, seeds, cereals, chips [crisps], and cold drinks. Examples of warm cooked oily foods are mashed potatoes, cooked rice dishes, curries, cooked stews, cooked apples, cooked vegetables, soups. Men who have high cholesterol should eat foods that maintain cholesterol low. Diabetic men should eat little refined sugar or ideally completely avoid it.

Where to get the oils and medicated ghees?

Mahanarayana oil, bala oil, and ashwagandha oil are not commonly sold at health stores and pharmacies in the west. Mustard oil is more commonly sold, but its quantity doesn't guarantee its high quality. One must therefore buy them online carefully. Carefully because the herbal market is in higher and higher demand and therefore more and more adulterated. I definitely don't recommend buying these oils on Amazon and from similar retailers as there is the highest chance of buying adulterated products. Every seller promises his products to be organic and natural, but that can mean anything in today's world of loose regulations, inaccurate language, and legal workarounds. The surest sources of clean products are Ayurvedic clinics and companies that produce these oils and other herbal medicines directly for Ayurvedic clinics. Google an Ayurvedic clinic near a location convenient to you.

If you want to get these oils to an address in the UK, you will get clean products from the Ayurvedic clinic. If you want to have these oils delivered to an address in the USA, you will get clean ones from Banyan Botanicals.

Plain ghee is easy, cheaper, and better to make at home than to buy in stores. Making it takes half an hour of clear time. Ghee from stores can contain additives for prolonging its life - and maximising the sellers' profits. Those additives are by the way absolutely not necessary as ghee can be stored in cupboards for years and actually improves medicinal properties with age! But a working professional man will most likely not have half an hour to make it. So if you must recourse to buying ghee, buy one with as few additives as you can get. Making medicated ghee at home is a long process, so it is better to buy it with care. The Ayurvedic herbs mentioned in this article are also best to buy from Ayurvedic clinics.

Ayurveda is an excellent and pleasant cure for sexual problems

...if one treats himself according to its principles with discipline and gives it time. Time heals, discipline makes miracles. The treatments described in this article may seem laborious, but are not more laborious than remembering to take several allopathic medicines. While allopathy manages disease, Ayurveda cures disease. As long as the toxins in the body that cause disease or vata, pitta, or kapha are aggravated, allopathic medicines will only make the problem worse. Ayurvedic treatments applied with discipline will clean the toxins and balance vata, pitta, and kapha over time. And that is how Ayurveda cures sexual problems in men determined to heal them by natural means.

Of course, one can read an article and be inspired to do what appeals. But then life goes on and most men do not do what they read. Well, doing what I can for men is part of how I heal, help, and bring light of pleasure into their lives. Doing what I can is part of our experiences together. So if you'd like to try, start a conversation.

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If the western world has excellent sanitation, advanced healthcare, and all the food and medicines that one can think of, why can so many men not make their penises rise to the occasion? Surely if the reasons were due to sanitation, healthcare, food, or medicines, every man’s penis would be a rockstar. So how does the first and oldest medical system and science of life explain this paradox?

The reason number 1 is stress

Really? Really! The downside of the desire for wealth, luxury, success, power, prestige, status, material and social establishment, and women is stress. When one chases these values, one pays in stress. And stress does not make the penis stand. Just think, dear reader, about your emotional disposition. It will highly likely be easy to find stress. Because men who do not feel stress and surf sites on which they find this article are few. Exception proves the rule.

The reason number 2 is emotional

Stress is an emotion. A man whose penis doesn’t rise is not entirely happy whether he recognises or admits it or not. He usually does admit it when he opens up in coaching. But coaching is unfortunately a rare occasion for men to open the hearts and express emotions. The at least western society forces men not to express emotions! When a man cries, he is weak. Crying is for women. When a man gets emotional, he makes others cringe – or is gay! Emotions are for women and homosexuals.

But men are beings with hearts too. So how can you tell a heart not to feel? After all, men are also romantic, artistic, dreamers. All these dispositions are emotional. A heart feels the same whether it belong to a man or a woman. So if men are not to express emotions in the world, of course it reflects on their sex. Emotions propel sex as much as physical urges.

The reason number 3 is what and how a man eats and drinks

This may annoy readers who are adamant that they won’t let anyone lecture them on changing their favourite food and drinks. Fine. We all choose our lives every second. Exactly as you chose to read this article for which I thank you and you will hopefully thank yourself one day, so those readers choose whether they want erectile function or dysfunction. If they want function, something has to give. The truth that what and how a man eats and drinks makes the penis rise or not rise stays true nonetheless.

Ayurveda explains how it can help here

I mentioned dhatus in my first article about Ayurveda and sex. The dhatus were irrelevant for the point of that article. But they are at the core of relevance now. If a man eats incompatibly combined foods and drinks drinks that are poor in nutrients, the dhatus will not be nourished. The dhatus are the structural blocks of the body: plasma, blood, muscles, fat, bones, bone marrow, reproductive tissues. The penis is a muscle. Blood circulates through the penis. Reproductive fluids come out of the penis. If one dhatu is not sufficiently nourished, nor will be the successive dhatu.

The dhatus go in the order in which I named them. The order is fixed, not interchangeable. Therefore if we speak of only blood, muscle, and reproductive tissues, we speak of the second, third, and seventh dhatu. A man must eat and drink very healthily if the reproductive fluids are to be of high quality as they are a product of the last dhatu. Hence all the dhatus before the last one must be well nourished in order for the nutrients to get to and nourish the last one. This logic shows that a man’s way of eating and drinking therefore also directly affects sperm count.

But back to the dhatus. If the plasma doesn’t get proper nourishment from food and drinks, nor will the blood, nor will the muscle, therefore the penis won’t have the strength to stand.

And how Ayurveda explains erectile dysfunction by the dosha…

I explained the 3 doshas – physical constitutions – in the article about Ayurveda and sex and won’t repeat myself here. One click will take you to the explanation. So we continue. Vata men have erectile dysfunction the most often. Because they don’t eat well. Vata people do not eat regularly, do not eat at times of the day when the digestive tract is best disposed to process food, and often do not drink enough fluids. A man who eats erratically will inevitably not be properly nourished. So his penis won’t stand.Vata people are often insecure, full of fear, emotionally unstable. One day they’re dressed, the next day they sing and dance. Emotions power and do not power erections. Emotional dysfunction = erectile dysfunction.

Pitta people have high digestive fire. They usually eat regularly as they cannot be hungry because when they are hungry, they are weak or dizzy. But as their digestive fire is high, they often eat too often, which is the other extreme of vata eating. If people eat too often, toxins form from particles of food that the digestive tract did not have time to digest before the next meal. The toxins then penetrate the plasma, blood, muscle, fat, bones, bone marrow, and reproductive fluids. Pitta people also like alcohol which is serious poison to all the dhatus. And pitta people love living luxurious lifestyles, which has the price of frequent eating, alcohol, and other unhealthy habits.

Besides all that pitta people move the economy. They are the workaholics, they are the executives, academics, and high professionals. These professions generate pressure and stress and we’re back to the first section of this article. When one is stressed, the penis doesn’t stand. And to alleviate the stress many folks drink coffee, alcohol, smoke, etc. Those things also don’t make penises stand.

Kapha people have their own problems. They love to eat and thus often eat even without being hungry. That makes them easily get fat. Obesity does not rise the penile muscle. Obesity makes people want to sit and eat more, hate exercise, be lazy and lethargic. This vicious circle can spiral into depression. So with all these factors it is easy to see how Ayurveda explains kapha people’s erectile dysfunction.

How Ayurveda explains erectile dysfunction

should now make perfect sense. The good thing is that a man can change several of the factors mentioned here easily and free of charge. If you scream that you can’t change them easily, I’m not a coach and holistic companion for nothing. I can gladly help you with my knowledge of NLP and Ayurveda. We can start a conversation.

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Ayurveda

Ayurveda is a Sanskrit word which means the science of life. And a very profound science and the oldest of all sciences it is indeed! It has no beginning and no end, hence no one knows exactly when it came to existence. We know only that it has existed for more than 5,000 years - and longer every day as time flies. It originates in India, but does not belong to the Indians. Ayurveda is for everyone in every country and its mission is to heal the world. It heals if used well, for it is a medical system. But it is not only a medical system. It incorporates quantum physics, philosophy, psychology, and much more. And of course, Ayurveda - the science of life - incorporates sex! More will become clear as you read on.

Ayurveda teaches that the human body consists of three fundamental categories: doshas (subtle elements)dhatus (plasma, blood, muscles, fat, bones, bone marrow, reproductive fluids) and malas

The doshas and the elements

The dhatus and malas are not relevant for the topic of this article. Like everything else, the doshas (literal translation is faults) comprise the five basic elements. And different elements predominate in different doshas. Every person has the three doshas. And their proportion forms the genetic makeup - the physical constitution - of every person. The first dosha is vata, composed of space and air. The second dosha is pitta, composed of fire and water. And the third dosha is kapha, composed of water and earth. This information will be useful later.

As Sanskrit is a profound language and the English language is not sufficient for accurately translating words from Sanskrit, the names of the doshas are difficult to translate into western terms.  The closest translation of vata is the bodily air - the principle of movement - that which moves everything in the body. But the air in the external atmosphere is not the same as the air in the body. Vata is the subtle energy that governs all movement in and of the body.

Pitta is translated as fire, although the term does not mean the fire of a candle or in a fireplace. It is the digestive fire, the bodily heat energy which manifests as metabolism. Pitta governs digestion, absorption, assimilation, nutrition, metabolism, temperature, skin coloration, the lustre of the eyes, intelligence, and understanding. Pitta out of balance arouses anger, hatred, fierce competition, and jealousy.

The translation of kapha is biological water. Water is the main constituent of kapha,  therefore kapha governs everything liquid in the body and more. However, as kapha also has earth predominant, kapha holds all the elements of the body together, gives physical structure, and maintains resistance. Kapha is also responsible for  attachment, greed, longstanding envy, calmness, forgiveness and love.

A balance among the doshas is necessary for health. The air principle kindles the bodily fire, but water is necessary to control the fire so that the fire does not burn everything. Vata moves kapha and pitta since kapha and pitta are immobile.

The attributes of the doshas

To understand why your partner does not want sex when you do we must know the attributes - qualities - of the doshas. So the attributes of vata are light, clear, cold, mobile, dry, rough, subtle. Imagine cold air flying out of a bottle and you will know the attributes of vata. Pitta is oily, light, hot, sharp, mobile = spreading, smelling badly, liquid. Imagine bile and you'll know the attributes of pitta. Kapha is heavy, cold, oily, sticky, dull, soft, firm. Imagine mud and you'll know the attributes of kapha.

Of course, the attributes also manifest in the psychological and emotional sphere. And this is the bridge to the topic of this article. So since vata is like cold air out of a bottle, vata people want to fly - without direction. They're often creative. Indeed, many artists are vata. And due to the subtle attribute of vata they're immensely happy cheerful folks when they are balanced. The light and mobile qualities of vata make them want to fly from thing to thing - and from relationship to relationship! They're therefore quick to start and just as quick to finish things and relationships if they have the direction to finish them at all! Their speaking and acting can be immensely chaotic as one cannot tell air which way to fly!

Imbalanced vata is insecure, afraid, anxious, often low on confidence. Vata people therefore often stay in relationships out of fear of being alone even if they don't want to be in them if they don't have the confidence to finish them. Hence vata people either finish relationships quickly as they get bored easily or bottle feelings up and stay in relationships out of fear even if they don't want to be in them. They are also unfortunately often misunderstood by society as the western society is set up by and for pitta people.

The western society is set up by and for pitta people. Hence life has an order and everything has a place and time. The sharp quality of pitta makes pitta people's minds sharp, which lands them in high and leading positions at work. Most world and spiritual leaders are and were pitta. Pitta people are direct, don't waste words, and mean their words. The hot quality of pitta makes pitta people's tempers flare quickly. It is easy for them to get angry, especially when they are imbalanced. Pitta people don't suffer fools gladly and forgive, but never forget. The mobile - spreading - quality of pitta makes pitta people competitive and eager to spread their fame, be the best, be respected and recognised, and leave their mark or legacy.

The badly smelling quality of pitta perhaps or certainly unconsciously is why pitta people love perfumes and all things smelling greatly. They often have a lot of perfumes and like their clean organised homes to smell great as well. The predominant elements of pitta are fire and water. Fire is connected to vision, water is connected to taste. Pitta people are therefore highly visual and thus like food, homes, clothes, things nicely presented. They often seek luxury and do well in luxurious environments.

Imbalanced pitta is highly flammable, angry, hating, jealous. Imbalanced pitta people are also often arrogant, competitive through dead bodies, and domineering.

If you imagine a person who is heavy, cold, oily, sticky, dull, soft, firm, the fact that kapha people are set in their ways won't surprise you. They act slowly, and that can be very dull for people who want to fly or get results! Kapha people live in and love with the whole hearts. They care, share, and act with soft smiles. They're definitely down to earth and earthy. After all, one of the predominant elements of kapha is earth!

An imbalanced kapha is extremely attached to things, wealth, and people. Attachment can grow to greed. And longstanding envy is another negative trait of kapha.

How Ayurveda explains different preferences for sex

The light and mobile attributes of vata make people of this dosha have high sex drive and want sex quickly and immediately as the urge for it arises. When they have it, it lasts short. Vata men most often ejaculate much more quickly than they'd like and then feel that after ejaculation there's nothing else to give in the act of intimacy. The physical need is satisfied. And premature ejaculating often brings insecurity and fear of not being good enough for their partners. Hence they're as quick with the act of sex as they are with everything else in life at large.

We now know that pitta people like order, fare well in a routine, and everything has a place and time. So does sex. Pitta people like to have sex by appointment as they are busy with their often high or leading positions at work and high lives - often in luxurious dimensions! Pitta people are highly visual and therefore like order, cleanliness, colour coordination, and presentation that pleases the eyes. This is where their desire for preparing the right atmosphere for sex comes from. Candlelight, rose petals on the neat bed, the right type of music, and a nice scent in the air is a matter of course. A nice meal with some wine and then a bath or shower and perfumes are part of the preparatory ritual for sex.

Kapha people already live in and with their hearts. Hence they welcome, but don't need a luxurious atmosphere for sex. Albeit they have very high sex drive, their slow heavy attributes don't pull them to start sex. In fact, to get many kapha people to make love can be a challenge even though their high sex drive makes this a total paradox. But once you manage to get them into the mood, they're immensely attentive lovers. And the high sex drive will finally be clear to you when they show you how they can keep going while you're exhausted after the best orgasm of your life!

How Ayurveda explains why your partner doesn't always want sex when you do

Now this should be clearer. Vata people - air out of a bottle - are quick. To sail through a pitta partner's conditions and preparatory ceremony for sex bores and confuses them. Pitta people like to enjoy sex in style. Style has conditions and takes preparation. Vata partners do not have patience for that. And pitta people will rarely yield an inch from their principles! While pitta people prepare for sex, kapha partners fall asleep! When everything is ready, pitta partners must wake kapha partners up and warm them up into the mood! Vata people are too quick for kapha partners. Kapha partners are too slow for vata partners.

So what to do? Well, you have done the first thing. You can now hopefully guess whether your partner is vata, pitta, or kapha and which type you are. And you now understand the dynamic between you and your partner. When we understand, we have a choice to act. We can get our partners involved in the preparations for sex. One lights the candles, the other makes the bed... When both partners work together, the anticipation rises. Vata people will be too busy to think about quickly satisfying the urge. Kapha people will be too busy to fall asleep. Pitta people will get the style. Everyone will be happy.

By the way, if you cannot guess which type you are, contact me. I will give you a chart according to which you will determine your constitution. And when you know how to determine your constitution = type, you will be able to determine anyone's. I'm always here for you - the men of the world. And I'll write about Ayurveda and matters of sex more as I learn more.

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Why is massage good for sleep?

I wrote about sleep, so won't repeat myself. Massage is not just good, but an excellent long-term treatment for sleep for several reasons. The first one is that massage relaxes the muscles and we sleep only when the body is relaxed. We won't sleep when the body is tense. It's as simple as that. The second reason is that massage relaxes the mind too. And when the mind is happy, it sleeps well. Again, no rocket science.

The third reason is that massage is a long-term ecological natural solution. While the body habituates to sleeping pills after 6 weeks and then people pay big money for no effect and only negative side effects, massage doesn't have negative side effects if it's done well, i.e. if the practitioner doesn't break your spine! In fact, massage has lots of other benefits about which I wrote years ago. Well done massage can even be better than sex and even has 4 much less obvious benefits too.

The fourth reason is that if massage is combined with aromatherapy, the healing properties of essential oils amplify the good effects of massage. And the best for last - an experienced aromatherapist will massage you with oils that promote good sleep! Two birds with one stone.

And what about the cost?

Of course massage costs time, energy, and money, be it for sleep or whatever. In a world of only rising costs of everything many folks' first objection will be that regular massage is expensive. Well, medicines also cost a bomb and will also cost only more. And the body habituates to medicines after 6 weeks while doctors are salespeople of pharmaceutical medicines and want you to pay the costs of sleeping pills for life regardless of whether the pills work. So how does that compare? At least massage always has good effects on several things, not only sleep. In other words the body never habituates to massage. And the mind definitely never habituates to health!

The second way of looking at the cost of massage for good sleep is that you'll pay a price one way or another. When the sleeping pills no longer work, what then? It'll be time to up the ante... and what's the next level? To buy more sleeping aids? They'll cost too. And won't guarantee that good sleep which a well massaged body will get. Because it's back to the first reason - when the muscles are perpetually tense and full of toxins that ever gather and never leave, sleeping aids will clearly never match the benefits of massage.

So, dear corporate man, entrepreneur, businessman, and man in every high profession which fills the body and mind with perpetual tension, stress, toxins, if you have bad sleep, I hope to have brought long sought light into your life and you'll sleep better tonight only knowing that you've finally found a way to treat bad sleep that won't harm and will benefit your health, happiness, and productivity in many ways.

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I always tell men who present the argument of my three roles conflicting with or contradicting one another that just like Apple looks after a man's technological needs, I look after a man's wellbeing. There's nothing conflicting nor contradicting about Apple selling computers, software, accessories, cases, phones, music players, accessories for them, and workshops. Apple is one stop for all technological needs of a human being. Hence instead of conflicting or contradicting it offers a whole package.

Companion, massage therapist, men's coach...

All my roles beautifully complement and enrich each other in the same way.  A massage therapist works with energy. A coach also works with energy in relationships with oneself and others. A companion hears about all sorts in conversations with the people whom she accompanies to the most diverse places and settings. The conversations which I have with people when I'm their companion enrich me as a coach. And vice versa when I use coaching in conversations to offer people new perspectives and ways to find solutions to things that they'd like to have better.

Energy is everywhere whether we see it or not.  Light is energy. Wind is energy, every person has energy. The role of a massage therapist gives me the privilege to get intimate with people on a level which conversations don't access. This profound level allows me to be attuned to people like no standard coach who doesn't combine coaching with massage. And also like no massage therapist who doesn't have training in coaching. Men open up when they relax during massage. And when they open up, they release all kinds of things.  I can help as a coach. And there's a good chance that I've heard their plights in conversation with someone whom I accompanied on a date or trip...

Massage enriches health. I coach on health, relationships, work, money, success. Hence I use a lot of knowledge of massage in coaching on health. And vice versa. When a man comes to me for a massage, I gladly offer suggestions, advice, or recommendations of nutrition, fitness, and other aspects of physical and mental health. I wouldn't do so if I didn't draw on knowledge and experience as a coach!

How the three roles enrich me - and the men who want me in their lives

Many men, most often strangers, very quickly observe that I'm very astute.  The astuteness is due exactly to the complementation of my three roles. A person who massages naked bodies, coaches naked souls, and accompanies [sometimes naked] people is inevitably far more astute than a person who performs any of these roles singly.

My role as a coach sharpens my communication and makes me astute to misunderstandings before they happen. I relate to people's differences better than a person who isn't a coach. I solve awkward situations, conversations, subjects more elegantly and easily than a person who isn't a coach. As a companion I gather experiences from all walks of life. They enrich my life and coaching. When a man reveals a subject super sensitive to him, I accept it easily because I've most likely heard it a hundred times before...

My roles as a companion and coach teach me to relate well to people of all styles of communication with all types of character. Relating well makes people comfortable with me. And when we're comfortable with the massage therapist, we'll easily relax during a massage! My role as a massage practitioner encourages me to look after my health - practise what I preach - and gather experiences of whether the tips that I share in articles on this page of my site work, what health is like, and the difference between being healthy and not being ill. Of course, I can then happily enrich coaching men on their health with my experience of it.

So finally...

if you have viewed my roles as a companion, massage therapist, and coach as conflicting or contradicting, you'll hopefully understand why they are indeed the opposite. Why they beautifully complement each other and form a holistic package which no other woman out there offers. And which the people of today's world desperately need! Even the adult industry does not fulfil its role in society now. Hence intelligent men look for something different. So if you are a professional man who wants this package, let's start a conversation!

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I've contemplated for years whether to publish this information on my site, because while good artists copy, the best artists steal. And "artists" who have no confidence in their creativity or simply want the easy way will steal! My site has been admired by men and unfortunately also women worldwide for years. And unfortunately there's plenty to steal from it. But the other side of this conflict won after all, because I owe men to let them know that not every massage therapist is worth their money.

So here are the most frequent mistakes that massage therapists make:

1. The mistakes of not preparing

The most frequent mistake that massage therapists make here is that they do not sufficiently prepare the recipient's body for being comfortable during a massage. The massage therapist should observe how the recipient lies on the surface and spot the places that look awkward or scream for support. Most unstudied therapists will leave their massage partner's head lie awkwardly, which will cause tension in his neck and make him turn often. That's hardly relaxing! If the therapist doesn't correctly support the recipient's feet, the feet will wobble. That can cause the feet to twitch and the recipient to move.

Many recipients of quality massage fall into light or deep trance, or even light sleep. If a massage therapist doesn't sufficiently support all parts of the body, the recipient will move = stay awake. That will prevent him from relaxing. And he may even develop more tension in some parts of the body than he had before the massage!

Warmth is another important prerequisite for quality relaxing massage. If the room isn't sufficiently warm, even the best massage in the world will be ruined. And ditto if the recipient isn't warm enough. Lying still for a long time will inevitably make many people cold. So a good massage therapist will always cover the recipient with warm blankets  and only expose the area on which she works. The feet get cold more quickly, because they're small and the farthest from the heart. So I always ensure that my massage recipients' feet are well covered.

2. Mistakes with the oils

Every man who has visited a massage parlour which sells everything but massage knows well that the people in those places won't invest in proper essential oils because that would seriously cut into their profits. They'll massage with baby oils or similar products from supermarkets. Now even many personal lubricants are marketed as lubricants and massage oils in one. And many a woman in these "massage" parlours won't hesitate to put this multifunction to the test. These products certainly won't bring your skin nor muscles absolutely any benefit and can even irritate due to the additives in them!

Speaking of additives and irritation, a good massage therapist will always ask a recipient whether he is allergic to anything. His response will help her avoid oils that could cause harm.

2. When applying the oils...

The correct way to apply the essential oils is to pour them into the palm of one hand, rub the palms to warm up the blend, and apply the blend to the skin. Most unstudied masseuses will pour the oils from the bottle directly on the recipient's skin. This is also unpleasant for the recipient, because the oils will be cold, hence cause a shock. And rubbing the oils between the palms has another important function - to activate the properties of the oils. The properties won't be active if a therapist pours the oils directly from the cold glass bottle on the skin!

3. Mistakes in massage techniques

The absolutely most frequent mistake that massage therapists make is massaging or pressing on the spine. Think about it - the spine is a very sensitive part of the body. It's fragile, and will be even more fragile in people who don't exercise, because it will be less flexible and resilient. I don't know why so many people who claim that they studied massage are so drawn to massaging so close to or even directly over the spine when they have the whole vast plane of the back to showcase their artistry on! The spine can easily be damaged by pressure, therefore should be left alone. And the spine has no muscles! A massage is for muscles, not for bones! A massage therapist who knows what she is doing will massage around the spine.

Not having a system in the massage is another telltale sign of someone who doesn't know what she's doing. A massage is like a workout for the muscles. A good workout has a warmup, the deep work, cooldown, and stretching to lengthen the muscles and stimulate circulation. A good massage will start with warming strokes, proceed to the deep work, calm the area down with lighter strokes, and either stretch or stimulate the circulation. Some types of massage are exceptions to this rule, but a skilled and creative therapist can incorporate a warmup and cooldown into them too.

Massaging too lightly or too hard is also a mistake. A good therapist will assess the right amount of pressure for every recipient the first time. And massaging away from the heart is a subtler one of the mistakes that massage therapists make. Strokes should always go toward the heart to stimulate circulation.

Any other mistakes that massage therapists make?

Yes, at least one. Therapists, good and bad, are also only human. Many of them succumb to dumping their negative comments on the recipients during a massage. They forget that the recipient came there to relax and escape from the negativity in the surrounding world. A good massage therapist will therefore never tell the recipient that he has tension there or there, or that he has a knot in this or that muscle... Comments like these bring negative energy into the massage and do not heal.

Have you seen these mistakes in women who sold you massage? Or can you add to this list? Or have you never had a proper massage? If you haven't, great!  I write these articles for the beginner and seasoned consumer alike. Everyone can learn from them - and if you're a beginner, these articles will add double value to you, because you'll be able to spot the rogue traders from the experts.  Tell me your experience whatever it be.

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The pros of massage tables - the only one pro

that I see is not for you, but for the masseuse. If it is for you too, then indirectly. Only in the sense that if the masseuse is 100% comfortable while massaging you, she'll transfer her comfort and grounded energy to you through her touch. And that will strengthen the healing of the massage. But I said indirectly. And if you ever get to know me, you'll find out that I don't waste words. The pro of massage tables is very definitely for the therapist. Massage tables were invented to help the masseuse keep a straight back and be able to walk around you for easy access to every part of your body. Her straight back will not hurt, thus she will be more comfortable.... And be able to apply solid pressure in certain movements during the massage. But that's about it.

The cons of massage tables

• they are narrow and high. That forces you to lie very still and constrainedly in order not to destabilise the table. The masseuse's movements and mainly pressures destabilize it enough, let alone you wanting to move a limb! Few tables are comfortably wide even for a heavy person! And even the wide ones are high. Hence a heavy or less mobile person can find climbing on the table difficult.
• they are not rock-solidly stable. That makes you feel like you will fall. And even though falling is highly unlikely, feelings are not logical and this feeling at the back of the mind is not exactly relaxing!
• the massage tables that have a hole for the face are the worst, because gravity does its magic whether we like it or not and after a while of motionless lying your face will feel like being sucked out through the hole. That can hurt. A massage is to induce relaxation and destroy pain, not create pain!

Massaging on the bed

is not good either. This is because the mattress absorbs most of the pressure of massage movements. The pressures are to compress the deep tissues and stimulate an influx of blood and lymph into them. Thus the only option that remains and I find the best by far is to massage on a massage and physio mat on the floor. Can you deduce why? If not, never mind. You can always experience the pros of this with me.

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Massage clinics and parlours are clinical.

And their clinical atmosphere doesn't exactly induce relaxation, which is the whole point of going for a massage!  After all, think about it: would you rather have a massage somewhere private, quiet, cozy? Or somewhere where you can hear ringing phones and voices of people in a waiting room behind the thin walls of a treatment room?  An independent masseuse offers an environment in which you can truly relax, because it's private, quiet, and far homier and cozier than any parlour or clinic will ever be. The clinical element is not there. And that will make a big difference to your relaxation.

Restrictive opening hours - or independent massage at any hour?

Massage clinics and parlours operate opening hours which you have to suit. Independent masseuses often operate hours to suit you! That makes a big difference. And yes, weekends, and sometimes even holidays are possible too.

Who makes the journey?

You'll always have to make the journey to a massage clinic or parlour. And another journey away from it after the massage. Contrastingly, an independent masseuse can come to your home or a location of your choice. This has advantages. One is in saving time, money, and energy on your journeys to and from the massage. Another is that you will be able to stay where you are and relax after the massage. You can just lie there and enjoy feeling like a newborn. You don't have to gather your strength to travel anywhere.  After all, what's the point in having a massage that's supposed to relax you if you have sitting in traffic home at the back of your mind even before the massage begins?

Autopilot - or independent massage?

Massage at a clinic or parlour will be immensely automatic because the masseuses at clinics massage bodies daily for months or years. But I very much doubt that an independent masseuse will have the same approach. The independent masseuse competes with the clinics and parlours. She will therefore most likely do her utmost to give you a massage like none other. She will want you back, and also probably won't be motivated entirely by money if she operates independently despite the huge competition from clinics and parlours where there can be several masseuses in one place. If the independent masseuse isn't motivated by money as much , the advantage to you is that she won't administer the massage in that terribly automatic and rushed manner. She will make it as enjoyable for you as possible.

Essential oils

A masseuse at a clinic or parlour will have only a few essential oil blends at hand. Firstly due to minimising costs and maximising profits. Secondly due to the fact that the oils have a shelf life. The more oils, the more shelf life there is to watch. An independent masseuse will have a large kit of oils from which she'll make a fresh blend according to the condition she is to treat - even if the condition is simply to relax and enjoy yourself. And independent masseuse will find watching the shelf life of oils easier than staff at clinics where there can be several masseuses.

...and the best for last.

If you like to combine a good therapeutic massage with sextras, a masseuse at a clinic or bona fide massage parlour [not brothel in disguise] will definitely not give them to you. That's because she'll be scared that you'll spread the word and the reputation of the clinic - if not her job - will suffer.

But I'm positive that many an independent masseuse will happily oblige, even if for extra money. After all, if you can't get sextras for free, better get them for more money than not at all if you want them so much.  Since the independent masseuse will want you back, she'll do a lot more than the clinic masseuse to tailor your experience to your utmost satisfaction. But many charge extra for sextras because they're solo and don't get the salaries and the support of the institutional earning power that masseuses in clinics and parlours get. Thus independent masseuses naturally take every opportunity to get more money out of you.  That's a fact of living in the world of today.

Do not haggle prices of independent massage

Beware of this phenomenon! Many men succumb to the tendency to treat independent masseuses as prostitutes as they think that exactly because independent masseuses do whatever they can to earn money, the masseuses will give them sexual services instead of massage or massage for less money. Please respect the status of the independent masseuse and do not haggle the price with her. A masseuse is a masseuse whether she works at an institution or for herself. The skill is the same - massage therapy. Show respect and life will reward you. If you want sex, go to a place where they sell it.

Try independent massage

Why would I be writing about this if I hadn't been an independent masseuse for two decades?  Would you like to put the points I listed here to the test? Would you like to experience how real independent massage should be done?  Let's start a conversation. 

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Millennia of existence prove its effectiveness

The very fact that aromatherapy has been here far longer than commercially made medicines should serve as a strong testimony.  If aromatherapy didn't work, wouldn't it go extinct through all civilizations to the modern world of science, knowledge, and information? If ancient civilizations in all parts of the world cured their rich and poor with aromatherapy and there was as much sickness in the world then as there is now, shouldn't this serve as a testimony that aromatherapy works?

Also, if essential oils are extracted directly from plants rather than chemicals engineered by man, shouldn't essential oils be better for health and our bodies and sufficiently potent to cure our ailments?  If aromatherapy didn't work, would the Egyptians put its products into the graves of their pharaohs? And could the suppliers of aromatherapy compete charging small fortunes for it in today's world? After all, they have more than enough competition from pharmaceutical companies...

The active ingredients

Let's look at why aromatherapy works from another perspective. When you buy a pharmaceutical medicine, the active ingredient, which is highly likely also a manmade chemical, is diluted by default. This is because you have to eat the tablet with the powder that shapes and holds the tablet together, plus colourings and preservatives so that the medicine can sustain long shelf life. Likewise you have to swallow a capsule with the material, colouring, and preservatives that encapsulate the active ingredient. The powder that holds the tablet and the material that forms the capsule will dissolve in your stomach with the active ingredient. Hence the active ingredient will be far less potent.  This also explains why you have to take a whole course of some medicines before their effect kicks in.

Essential oils don't have this problem, because a) you don't digest them. The skin absorbs them into the blood stream. B) they come in glass bottles, thus don't contain powders, colourings, nor encapsulating materials to hold them.  The glass bottles don't mix with the active ingredients of essential oils.  The glass bottles simply contain the oils. And c) the essential oils are the active ingredients. Thus many cannot be used neat on the skin, because they could irritate it. That's exactly due to their potency! For this reason an aromatherapist will dilute the essential oils to various intensities in carrier oils. And the carrier oils contain minerals which are also wonderful for the skin. The minerals beautifully complement the concentrated essential oils.

The cost of aromatherapy speaks volumes too...

The small fortunes that you'll pay for essential oils reflect the fact that you'll get the pure product [unless the oils are adulterated. But I'm not taking this option into account to clearly put my point across here]. And do you know why some essential oils cost so much?  Because people can collect the nature's gifts from which they extract the essential oils only at limited times of day or night or in limited conditions. And exactly this and other factors make them expensive due to the costs of labour.

But in the long term the effectiveness and kindness of aromatherapy to the body and soul will beautifully even out its cost. And the fact that you can also use aromatherapy at home, at work, and even on animals is also a big plus for justifying its cost. It makes life pleasant and happier. Pleasure and happiness have high value. And will have even higher value in future. So is aromatherapy really that expensive in the long term? It is cheaper than pharmaceutical medicines.

Perhaps this article and others about aromatherapy on this site show that I'm a qualified aromatherapist. I beautifully combine aromatherapy with massages exclusively for older executive, corporate, and professional men. Would you like a massage that you'll get nowhere else? Let's talk about it. 

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